I met someone but.. at a bar.. suggestion?

**Cinder & Smoke** · 09-29-2006, 02:40 PM

Originally Posted by CountryWolf07

I'm not dating anyone right now - My ex dumped me 5 months ago.

That louse!

Well, his loss, Your gain ... Keep on truckin!

And DON'T lower your standards - you deserve a *nice* guy - keep looking till
you find him!!

{{{Hugs}}} from Phred

**CountryWolf07** · 09-29-2006, 03:40 PM

Originally Posted by Cinder & Smoke

That louse!

Well, his loss, Your gain ... Keep on truckin!

And DON'T lower your standards - you deserve a *nice* guy - keep looking till
you find him!!

{{{Hugs}}} from Phred

Oh thanks Phred! (hugs) I know I do deserve a nice guy, which I THINK this guy is a nice one... so hopefully we'll be friends and see what happens from there eventually.

I will never lower my standards to any guy, all I can do is to be myself and just let my personality show off. I am often told by my friends that I am impossible to forget because I leave an impression.

**zoey** · 09-29-2006, 03:53 PM

Hi! I'm glad you met someone nice, but take it slowly.
Did i understand you correctly? You both had given the other your numbers? If so, wait for him to call you.
Guys want you to be aloof in the beginning, trust me.
You don't have to play games, but just be patient and don't appear too eager. Just reserve your best for the right time and place, ya' know? Anyway, good luck!

**CountryWolf07** · 09-29-2006, 05:19 PM

Yes. I actually gave him my #, then he called my cell phone to get his number in it. He checked to make sure it was my # and I made sure it was his. So, it isn't fake or anything.

I did have his email address, but ha, it didn't work - but it figures.

I am going to call him eventually, see what's up and see if he wants to hang out.

I am so bad at this thing - dating - I don't know the games or the rules of dating, basically but I'm just gonna take it slow and see how it goes.

He was ONLY the guy that came up to me at the bar just to say hi and he kept apologizing if he'd offend me because I knew sign language and he wanted to participate in that and sign a little to me. He just talked to me, and I was with a group of friends, and he just came up and talked to me. When he asked to buy me a drink, I was thinking "ME?! Wow."

I don't have this happen to me much often, honestly.

**moosmom** · 09-29-2006, 07:36 PM

He sounds like a pretty swell guy to me! Good luck.

**BC_MoM** · 09-29-2006, 07:53 PM

That's really great! Give him a call! Even if a relationship doesn't work out, maybe a great friendship will! Good luck!

**Vette** · 09-29-2006, 07:59 PM

Thats how my mom and dad met,, and theyve been happily married 33 years (34 in Dec)

**pitc9** · 09-30-2006, 07:48 AM

Originally Posted by BC_MoM

That's really great! Give him a call! Even if a relationship doesn't work out, maybe a great friendship will! Good luck!

True!!
I think it was very sweet of him to come up to you and sign!!
I would have been flattered!
There's nothing wrong with meeting people in a bar. Sure there could be wack-o's at a bar, but they can also be at the grocery store, the bank... etc!

Keep us posted!
Let us know when you call him!

**Karen** · 09-29-2006, 08:03 PM

Originally Posted by CountryWolf07

Yes. I actually gave him my #, then he called my cell phone to get his number in it. He checked to make sure it was my # and I made sure it was his. So, it isn't fake or anything.

I did have his email address, but ha, it didn't work - but it figures.

I am going to call him eventually, see what's up and see if he wants to hang out.

I am so bad at this thing - dating - I don't know the games or the rules of dating, basically but I'm just gonna take it slow and see how it goes.

He was ONLY the guy that came up to me at the bar just to say hi and he kept apologizing if he'd offend me because I knew sign language and he wanted to participate in that and sign a little to me. He just talked to me, and I was with a group of friends, and he just came up and talked to me. When he asked to buy me a drink, I was thinking "ME?! Wow."

I don't have this happen to me much often, honestly.

Wait a bit, then give him a call. It is 2006, it's okay for a girl to call a guy! Then if you want, set up a public place to meet, and have an ASL lesson plan in your head to start the conversation!

**slleipnir** · 09-29-2006, 08:58 PM

My mom and dad met at a bar...I don't see anything wrong with it. I don't see any harm in calling him

**My Peanuts** · 10-04-2006, 01:09 PM

I met my bf at a bar and let me tell you, he is the most wonderful person in the world. The weird part was that whenever ANYONE would walk up to me in a bar I wouldn't talk to them. Maybe a hello or whatever but I wasn't the nicest person, but when my bf, Joe, walked up to me it was different right away. That was over 2 years ago

. Not everyone in a bar is just looking for a good time, some are looking for relationships.

I say give it a chance.

**My Peanuts** · 10-04-2006, 01:16 PM

Also, Joe told me that at the beginning he was trying to play it cool, but he really liked me right away. So if this guy tries to be a little stand-offish don't worry too much. Just a little advice.

Good luck!

Originally Posted by CountryWolf07

And..

He wants to go to the ASL social on Friday evening with me.. and he has to see if he can get someone else to take his place at his work, so he'll let me know about that, if not.. I asked him if he was up to for hanging out over the weekend.. and he said he would.. so.. so.. I guess something good comes out of this.. and I am just letting it go with the flow..

Spending time with you on a weekend means he's pretty into you. Just more of my advice