What do I do? Elderly friends...*UPDATE*

[Dorothy39]

catty1, I am praying that the Brothers offer some support!!!

I feel the same agony that I went through, (during the 90's, when no one would HELP)

Far too often, a daugher is the person who is relied upon to care for aging parents!!! Sad, but sooo true.

Is there a way that you can contact another family member?


She (daughter) needs her brothers, needs her family!!! ( that poor woman)


Is there a Doctor in the HOUSE?

[Karen]

Call the Bar Association, ask for a lawyer reccomendation for someone who specializes in elder affairs. There are such folks, and she needs one. Also have her check with the city they live in - cities (and towns, sometimes it's a county thing) often have offices set up to deal with just this sort of thing. She should know (the daughter) that she is not alone, there is help out there, and one does not necessarily have to be broke to get it.

[lizbud]

Call the Bar Association, ask for a lawyer reccomendation for someone who specializes in elder affairs. There are such folks, and she needs one. Also have her check with the city they live in - cities (and towns, sometimes it's a county thing) often have offices set up to deal with just this sort of thing. She should know (the daughter) that she is not alone, there is help out there, and one does not necessarily have to be broke to get it.

This is so true. My sister & brothers hired an attorney who specialized
in elder law for my mom.There are many options open to these people that only a specialist in elder law can help uncover for them,It really isn't necessary to be in the poor house to get government help that they
deserve.It's the best money you can spend to hire an good attorney.

[caseysmom]

I have a friend who is a social worker in a sort of adult protective services agency. Try to find one of those in their area.

[Catty1]

THANK YOU!

I looked up Alzheimer's resources, as well as Eldercare and the NAELA (National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys) in their state.

I also copied and pasted some of every post here. Anonymously, of course!

I just phoned the daughter, and said that info was on its way. She is hanging in there.

She doesn't use the internet, only Juno email - so I think it is a sign from God that my printer is actually working properly today!

THANK YOU ALL AGAIN! I care deeply about these people, all of them...and I am sure this will help.

HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS

[K9karen]

Sorry this is so late
Been there...
An Elderare lawyer is the way to go.. I wouldn't have survived without one.
I could give you oodles of advise based on what I did. I sure hope your friend actually calls a lawyer. This brings back such sad, terrifying memories. After paying the lawyer the 1st time with my dad, I learned what to do with my mom. I called the lawyer, told him what I did and he OK'd it, never charged me and said I was a quick learner. It was a semi nightmare, but in order to save any money at all and not let ot go towards a nursing home (let Medicare pay) she'll have to do something fast. I hope everything works out....