How old are your neighbors kids? If they are older then maybe they can help. I would let your neighbor know that she hasn't had experince around kids and you would like her help to slowly get her use to them. The children should never hug your dog, that's asking for trouble, they squeeze to hard and the dog will feel trapped. Older kids 8 and up can help with food, treats and maybe going on walks with you. 8 and up can be taught to move slow and be very gentle. But I do think it is important to talk to the neighbor, she will want to keep her kids safe and teach the kids to never aproach your dog without your permission. Good luck!