just a question

[mrspunkysmom]

But you don't know that to be the case, that's a bad assumption to make. There could be many reasons why that person doesn't post more, shyness, lack of confidence in their word skills, never mind time constraints, so don't assume the woorst, okay?

That is true in many instances.

I have some comments, too.
The reasons people don't post are (incuding others listed for clarity and comprehensiveness):

Time constraints - people prioritize where they spend their time on the web; I'm busy with a new job this year and that is my priority.

Shyness - which can be from a quiet personality, from lack of confidence, from lack of trust

Lack of confidence - in language skills or otherwise,

Intimidation by comradery of current members - many boards are exclusive and only admit you into their inner circle after many months or years, like many small towns

Not comfortable with technology - For many people, the amount of skill needed to do something simple is overwhelming. Computer and Internet tech have improved so much over the last ten years, but it still has a long way to go so that your ordinary person doesn't need to be an expert just to post some pictures or put up a simple web page.

I'm actually comfortable with tech, but shooting and posting pictures takes time. I've never been much of a picture person myself, never have been very sentimental. I never even took pictures of Spunky's scar from the surgery.

Not sure what to say, but want to say something

Repulsed by excessive cuteness - I do talk to my kitties in some of the same fashion that I see written here. I also comment to myself on some of the pictures I see such as COTD, petfinder, or pictures here. I just cannot make myself write such stuff on the web. :yech: I would not have said something about this earlier, because 'to each his own', but there is an unwritten rule here that people that don't effuse over others' pictures and write silly comments do not deserve comment or attention. This is nothing new, since people have formed cliques since the dawn of time; just don't be surprised if all don't comply with your style.

That person may not have seen the thread about KIKI being missing. And the start of your post, you mentioned Kiara and I didn't connect the two. I searched for posts and finally connected the two. 'KIKI' turned up the post I was looking for.

So let people be people. Welcome all strangers and accept them. Make all comply by the same rules. If you have requirements for acceptance into community, post them in the FAQ (and at sign-up), including mushiness and comments requirements.

Communication is the key.

If this is not deleted I will be surprised.

Anne

[K9soul]

I agree everyone is different and has different tastes. There are certain things that strike me as excessive too (i.e. the use of 10+ emoticons per post), but everyone is different in how they express themselves. I agree that ANY community will have its groups of friendships, cliques if you will, although that gives it a more negative connotation.

Anyway I know why this was posted and who caseysmom was thinking of at the time. Again, I have no problem whether someone posts a lot or doesn't post at all, but if they choose not to post to anyone else they should not expect as much familiarity and attention to their own posts, simply because of the many reasons already stated that people cannot post to EVERY thread and most will put more effort into posting towards those they are more familiar with.

I don't agree with some of the other posts in this thread. If people want to post a paragraph or just post "cute!" they shouldn't have to worry about offending. I appreciate posts that say more than one word, but I certainly do not consider it "rude" if they don't. I figure if all they say is cute, they simply want me to know they saw and enjoyed my pictures and I'm fine with that . We can't weigh everyone on some scale based on how we ourselves think and communicate. I believe in accepting and embracing differences as much as possible, sometimes those differences are hard to relate to or understand, but making assumptions and judgments is not really fair. I know I hate it when I feel someone may be assuming negatively about me or judging me in some way based on 'appearances.' I don't think ANYONE likes being judged, and I think it's important to try and keep that in mind, when you find yourself judging someone else..