Opinions...please help...

[Dorothy39]

caseysmom, You certainly have your hands full right now.

I'm so sorry that you have been "appointed" Sergeant!!!


I have drawn up contracts with my own children, and, they helped my children realize that self assertiveness can nurture positive growth!!!


Take it one day at a time.

[caseysmom]

If my brother wasn't dead I would kill him! How's that for keeping my sense of humor

[lizbud]

Well, after reading the PM you sent me, perhaps you should include a
caveat with your next thread. Something like "Opinions please help" except
anyone with an honest opinion that is not at all in line with what I already
plan to do or not do. I want to vent only, not really looking for opinions.

[catnapper]

If my brother wasn't dead I would kill him! How's that for keeping my sense of humor

LOL... my husband has health issues which he prefers to ignore and I tell him that I'll kill him if he dies on me!

I really do understand where you are coming from. My cousin Denise sounds just like your neice. You want to protect her at the same time you want to kick her in the rear! Vent all you want sweetie!

[caseysmom]

Thanks Kim, I don't mind opinions...just don't want to be told "well you already knew" Yeah I knew but I am hurting and need to talk.

[jazzcat]

I understand where you are coming from. I care for my stubborn 84 year old father who has dementia/alzheimer's. I can totally relate to needing to vent. I know that I must be careful of who I vent in front of because it sounds like I don't realize he has a problem. I do know that and I don't need anyone pointing it out to me but sometimes you can only take so much and you need to let it out. I've learned to not vent to some of my family because they take it as I need them to solve the problem - no - sometimes their suggestionss are even more frustrating and all I need is someone who understands to lend a sympathic ear.

I hope that you find a way to get through to her. Maybe the 'rules' is something to try. I doubt it will hurt anything and hopefully it will work. I'm sending you lots of good thoughts and vibes!!!

[Dorothy39]

caseysmom, You have every right to vent your despair, on Pet Talk.

We care and understand your frustration. Your niece reminds me of my one of my own nieces!!!!

Trust me, If Pet Talk existed when I took care of her, you would have read the same thread posted by ME!!!!!!


You can only do your very best~~~ So, pat yourself on the back for Knowing that you Raised your hand, when your name was called, for a job you didn't even want!!!


Postive thoughts and prayers for you!!!!!

[Muddy4paws]

I think Karen has the right idea, definatly set the rules now because she is walking all over you and she must obviously know it, my little brother even knows you dont leave rooms in a mess especially when you have made it and hes 9 years old.

I would defiantly write up a list as Karen suggested or make her pay rent or move out, no one else would put up with the kind of behaviour so you definatly deserve to be treated better seeing all you have done for her.