just a question

[K9soul]

Gosh no your not one of those and it was just that last week someone got all bent out of shape and I was just thinking how could they get so mad when they take to interest in us.

I know what you are talking about and I agree that surprised me. I was under the impression that since the person never participated in the board much otherwise, they didn't really care if they got replies or not. I'm not really sure what the person expected.

I don't really know who Rhi could be talking about though. I can't really think of anyone that seems to post 100s of pics of their pet/s and never respond to anyone else But then I haven't been keeping up a lot the past few months. And what does ignoring them do if they never respond? You can still see that there is a post made by them if they are on ignore..

[Daisy and Delilah]

As already mentioned by others; most of us know of a situation where this happened a few days ago. It involved someone who only posts pictures occasionally and doesn't participate on the board at all(to the best of my knowledge). The person posted pictures, waited for a few hours and got upset that there were no responses. I don't have a problem with someone posting pictures, without other participation, except when they get mad at the board because no one responded. Pet Talk was under great stress and strain during that time and it really sort of irritated me that this person was so inconsiderate and insensitive to issues involving most of our members. Even after being informed of the issues, the person never came back with a response/apology. Now, who was being rude there? Like any community, people are better received if others have had the chance to get to know them. It's so unfortunate that anyone has to be that touchy and feels the solution is to leave the board permanently.

That's really the only incident I can think of right off the bat

[caseysmom]

Daisy and Deliliah, thank you for saying what I was trying to say. You said it very eloquently.

[Almita]

I agree I have noticed as well. I know a few in like a week or two that just posted pictures on here and then next minute they said "why is noone responding to me? " They said that in like 5 minutes like as if this was a Instant Messenger, where you reply fast. That is what irritates me the most. Like someone justs write something the next thing they get upset and mad because noone responded in a minute.

I also don't like it when they just post a little bit to someone like just a smiley or cute or awww. That makes it seem rude. I reply to all of the picture threads so they feel glad about it, also I reply it with which picture i like the most, and that they did a great job at taking the pictures, and can't wait for more pictures. So they are glad about what they posted.

I do remember that person last week that got all mad because noone replyed, but the person didn't comment on the other threads anywhere on the forum.

That is what annoys me about this whole situation.

[Alasse]

I hope i havent offended any one here

I posted pics of my animals here, and probably seemed to disappear not long after, but there was a reason, my parents have been staying and as i only see them once a year, plus working shift work, the internet was put on hold. They've now gone and i gotta try to catch up.

I try to post to others threads, mostly short though sometimes a bit more involved. I'm a bit confused though, short replies are considered rude ie: "awwwww cute", why is that? Personally i'd have thought that was better than nothing at all. *shrugs*

[Ginger's Mom]

I try to post to others threads, mostly short though sometimes a bit more involved. I'm a bit confused though, short replies are considered rude ie: "awwwww cute", why is that? Personally i'd have thought that was better than nothing at all. *shrugs*

This part of your post made me smile. This is a very big community, with many different opinions as to what is an appropriate response. Although someone may have said that they find those types of posts rude, you will also find people on here that say, they would prefer that people make some sort of response or acknowledgement of their post rather than none at all. So my advise to you is respond in the way that you feel is appropriate. And as far as posting pictures and then becoming involved in something else without having a chance to respond to others, that is fine, just don't complain that no one likes you or that people aren't trying hard enough to make you feel welcome, when you are not making any effort to truly belong. Personally, so far I think you are doing great.

[GreyhoundGirl]

I hope I don't offend anyone here, but....

I usually don't look at threads that are started by someone I don't reconise the name of . Unless the title sounds interesting. ei: game, something to do with a greyhound or whippet , or a question that I am somewhat knowlegable on.

JMO Of course

[JenBKR]

I'm a bit confused though, short replies are considered rude ie: "awwwww cute", why is that? Personally i'd have thought that was better than nothing at all. *shrugs*

I feel the same way - I am usually on PT at work and don't have time to respond to every picture in detail. I do often go in and look at picture threads, but don't often respond. Actually, one of the reasons I don't respond to them is because I used to respond as 'aw, how cute' or comments like that and (this happened a while ago) I got a PM telling me that I was just trying to get my number of posts up by posting such 'pointless' comments. I probably shouldn't have let that get to me but it did, so now I barely reply to picture threads.

[elizabethann]

Interesting thread....considering I'm one of those "aaaaaaaaaaawww....how cute" people.

[Cataholic]

Actually, one of the reasons I don't respond to them is because I used to respond as 'aw, how cute' or comments like that and (this happened a while ago) I got a PM telling me that I was just trying to get my number of posts up by posting such 'pointless' comments. I probably shouldn't have let that get to me but it did, so now I barely reply to picture threads.

That is really unbelievable! (I don't mean I think you are telling a story, but, that someone would even state such a thing! Makes me remember why I have occasionally posted a PM. People like that are secret bullys, and **need** to be exposed). Sorry to hear you have taken that particular PM to heart.

[BC_MoM]

You know, but there are some people here who don't post at all in other's picture threads. They don't even reply to questions in their own, and yet they keep posting more. For the person I'm thinking of, it's like they think they're better than everyone on PT.

Situations like that bother me.

[Karen]

For the person I'm thinking of, it's like they think they're better than everyone on PT.

But you don't know that to be the case, that's a bad assumption to make. There could be many reasons why that person doesn't post more, shyness, lack of confidence in their word skills, never mind time constraints, so don't assume the woorst, okay?

[mrspunkysmom]

But you don't know that to be the case, that's a bad assumption to make. There could be many reasons why that person doesn't post more, shyness, lack of confidence in their word skills, never mind time constraints, so don't assume the woorst, okay?

That is true in many instances.

I have some comments, too.
The reasons people don't post are (incuding others listed for clarity and comprehensiveness):

Time constraints - people prioritize where they spend their time on the web; I'm busy with a new job this year and that is my priority.

Shyness - which can be from a quiet personality, from lack of confidence, from lack of trust

Lack of confidence - in language skills or otherwise,

Intimidation by comradery of current members - many boards are exclusive and only admit you into their inner circle after many months or years, like many small towns

Not comfortable with technology - For many people, the amount of skill needed to do something simple is overwhelming. Computer and Internet tech have improved so much over the last ten years, but it still has a long way to go so that your ordinary person doesn't need to be an expert just to post some pictures or put up a simple web page.

I'm actually comfortable with tech, but shooting and posting pictures takes time. I've never been much of a picture person myself, never have been very sentimental. I never even took pictures of Spunky's scar from the surgery.

Not sure what to say, but want to say something

Repulsed by excessive cuteness - I do talk to my kitties in some of the same fashion that I see written here. I also comment to myself on some of the pictures I see such as COTD, petfinder, or pictures here. I just cannot make myself write such stuff on the web. :yech: I would not have said something about this earlier, because 'to each his own', but there is an unwritten rule here that people that don't effuse over others' pictures and write silly comments do not deserve comment or attention. This is nothing new, since people have formed cliques since the dawn of time; just don't be surprised if all don't comply with your style.

That person may not have seen the thread about KIKI being missing. And the start of your post, you mentioned Kiara and I didn't connect the two. I searched for posts and finally connected the two. 'KIKI' turned up the post I was looking for.

So let people be people. Welcome all strangers and accept them. Make all comply by the same rules. If you have requirements for acceptance into community, post them in the FAQ (and at sign-up), including mushiness and comments requirements.

Communication is the key.

If this is not deleted I will be surprised.

Anne

[K9soul]

I agree everyone is different and has different tastes. There are certain things that strike me as excessive too (i.e. the use of 10+ emoticons per post), but everyone is different in how they express themselves. I agree that ANY community will have its groups of friendships, cliques if you will, although that gives it a more negative connotation.

Anyway I know why this was posted and who caseysmom was thinking of at the time. Again, I have no problem whether someone posts a lot or doesn't post at all, but if they choose not to post to anyone else they should not expect as much familiarity and attention to their own posts, simply because of the many reasons already stated that people cannot post to EVERY thread and most will put more effort into posting towards those they are more familiar with.

I don't agree with some of the other posts in this thread. If people want to post a paragraph or just post "cute!" they shouldn't have to worry about offending. I appreciate posts that say more than one word, but I certainly do not consider it "rude" if they don't. I figure if all they say is cute, they simply want me to know they saw and enjoyed my pictures and I'm fine with that . We can't weigh everyone on some scale based on how we ourselves think and communicate. I believe in accepting and embracing differences as much as possible, sometimes those differences are hard to relate to or understand, but making assumptions and judgments is not really fair. I know I hate it when I feel someone may be assuming negatively about me or judging me in some way based on 'appearances.' I don't think ANYONE likes being judged, and I think it's important to try and keep that in mind, when you find yourself judging someone else..

[Miss Z]

You know, but there are some people here who don't post at all in other's picture threads. They don't even reply to questions in their own, and yet they keep posting more.

Situations like that bother me.

That bothers me too. I post quite a lot of pictures on PT of my girls, but I would never expect anyone to reply to the thread. I'm quite happy to see the number of views, and it is nice to see people reply. I enjoy seeing pictures of other people's pets too, and try to visit dog and cat general to see pics in there instead of staying in pet general all the time. I usually reply, not necessarily with a huge amount of text, but just a line or two to let the person know how cute their pet is. I also feel the need to post a thankyou when someone replies on a thread I have started, I feel it's only common courtesy.

I have seen some instances of people who post a thread, then hang for ages about on 'Who's online' to see who's checking up on their thread (gah, I must be sad to check up on that kind of thing ). Of course, it is a fact that people who have been here longer get more replies generally than newbies, but people have to learn to take the time to get to know everyone and take the fact that not everyone can reply straight away for granted.