I hope everyone just calms down. Until you have proof to the contrary, ASSUME that a person is innocent of any wrong doing. Assume that the comments are made with genuine care and concern. Know that human beings under stress aren't always tactful. Sometimes we don't realize how we come across. Saying that someone is snappy or sounds stressed, is not a rude comment (in my opinion). It shows concern. And finally, if a person is so sensitive that they interpret various comments as negative, then message boards and chat rooms are not the place for you.