Vent

[slleipnir]

Yeah, I don't know what I would do without my dad. He is always there for me no matter what. Mom always gets angry if we're out somewhere and I get upset and always need to call him. She says why can't I talk to her. I do, but he is the one who is there for me all the time....

It's hard to explain. My mom seems different. We use to get along really good. We would fight but she generally seemed to care about me. I always call her and ask how her day is and how she is feeling...she never calls me and sees how I am....Sometimes I honestly wonder if she still loves me...I know she does, but it's hard to believe sometimes. I know I'm being greedy and she probably has something wrong with her and I should be more caring to her...but you have no idea. I don't know how I could possibly care more and it's still not enough. I can't say "poor you mom" everytime she has a pain...that would be like 1309023902 times a day.

Oh well. I don't want you all thinking I'm talking badly of my mother, cause I'm not. I just can't take how she treats me. It really hurts to feel that your own mother doesn't want much to do with you...

[JenBKR]

I know I'm being greedy and she probably has something wrong with her and I should be more caring to her...but you have no idea. I don't know how I could possibly care more and it's still not enough.

You are NOT being greedy! You deserve to feel loved by your mother. It sounds like you love your mom very much. This must be very painful for you. ((((hugs))))

[sandragonfly]

..dunno what to say. it's best you don't live with your mother, so glad you have your father.

all I can do now, give you hugs! may not help but let me know what can! ((()))

[slleipnir]

..dunno what to say. it's best you don't live with your mother, so glad you have your father.

all I can do now, give you hugs! may not help but let me know what can! ((()))

I could never live with my mom. I hate her roommate...

[Queen of Poop]

Hugs for you sweetie. I'm sorry your relationship with your mom is not what is should be. I am glad that your dad is there for you. It sounds to me like your mom has issues and is simply incapable of dealing with anyone elses. Knowing this, if you change the way you deal with her, leaving your issues to be handled by your dad (who you know will help you), you may find you get along better with your mom when things are just general. Just my thoughts.

[K9karen]

I'm so sorry, Audrey. I know your situation is very painful for you. If your mom is always complaining when you call, she might be in dire need of attention. I'm sure she loves you very much, and as they say, "we always hurt the ones we love". Your mom just may be releasing her frustrations on you. Don't forget, strangers don't really want to hear one's problems, so she feels she can take her feelings out on you, her daughter. So when you look at it that way, it may ease your pain.
I had an awesome relationship with my mom, but there were times she said things to me that took my breath away! During the time I home cared her and she got sicker and sicker, things got worse and worse, but I know she loved me with all her heart. In fact, minutes before she passed, she yelled at me! But I didn't take it personally. She was who she was.
I'm so thrilled you have such a super dad to turn to. There were times I could only ask my dad for advise and comfort. Just different personalities. It's obvious you love your mom. We all need to vent and I'm glad you have your PT family to turn to.

[Cataholic]

Audrey,
I am sorry you are experiencing this with your mom. Something that helps me sometimes deal with the way people treat me is to remember- the way someone treats you is a reflection of THEM, and not of YOU.

Your mom treats you this way largely because she can, and there is a deficiency in HER life that makes her this way. While she is your mother, I am not so sure I would encourage you to have a relationship with you. It seems to keep you in turmoil. It isn't something you are doing right/wrong that makes her react the way she does, and you cannot 'fix' or change the way she interacts with you. You can, however, change your situation by staying clear of her, for much of the time. Just cause someone is 'family', they aren't entitled to treat you poorly.

And, I would not encourage you to educate your mom on any of her apparent deficiencies- what a way to fuel the fire!