Vent

[Pembroke_Corgi]

I'm glad to hear you are feeling a little better. I'm sorry that it's hard having a relationship with your mother... I feel the same way about my dad.

He makes $20,000 more per year than my mom (they are divorced) but I NEVER ask him for anything, because if I do 1) I'll have to dance through hoops to get it 2) I'll be made to feel guilty/upset about it later in some way. I still see my dad but not much. I care about him but we never really talk about anything important. I hope you are able to have a relationship with your mother if that's what you want, but don't beat yourself up about HER issues.

[JenBKR]

((((hugs)))) sounds like a rough relationship with your mom. Have you guys ever tried to get some counseling? Sounds like maybe she wouldn't go for it, but it can't hurt to try. I think that the accident you had was a freak thing, and it still has you a bit shook up. That must have been scary. And then to have your mom react that way must have really hurt. I'm glad that you are able to come here and vent, because it sounds like that's what you really needed to do. I am glad that you have your dad, he seems like the rock that you need right now. More ((((hugs))))

[slleipnir]

Yeah, I don't know what I would do without my dad. He is always there for me no matter what. Mom always gets angry if we're out somewhere and I get upset and always need to call him. She says why can't I talk to her. I do, but he is the one who is there for me all the time....

It's hard to explain. My mom seems different. We use to get along really good. We would fight but she generally seemed to care about me. I always call her and ask how her day is and how she is feeling...she never calls me and sees how I am....Sometimes I honestly wonder if she still loves me...I know she does, but it's hard to believe sometimes. I know I'm being greedy and she probably has something wrong with her and I should be more caring to her...but you have no idea. I don't know how I could possibly care more and it's still not enough. I can't say "poor you mom" everytime she has a pain...that would be like 1309023902 times a day.

Oh well. I don't want you all thinking I'm talking badly of my mother, cause I'm not. I just can't take how she treats me. It really hurts to feel that your own mother doesn't want much to do with you...

[JenBKR]

I know I'm being greedy and she probably has something wrong with her and I should be more caring to her...but you have no idea. I don't know how I could possibly care more and it's still not enough.

You are NOT being greedy! You deserve to feel loved by your mother. It sounds like you love your mom very much. This must be very painful for you. ((((hugs))))

[sandragonfly]

..dunno what to say. it's best you don't live with your mother, so glad you have your father.

all I can do now, give you hugs! may not help but let me know what can! ((()))

[slleipnir]

..dunno what to say. it's best you don't live with your mother, so glad you have your father.

all I can do now, give you hugs! may not help but let me know what can! ((()))

I could never live with my mom. I hate her roommate...

[Queen of Poop]

Hugs for you sweetie. I'm sorry your relationship with your mom is not what is should be. I am glad that your dad is there for you. It sounds to me like your mom has issues and is simply incapable of dealing with anyone elses. Knowing this, if you change the way you deal with her, leaving your issues to be handled by your dad (who you know will help you), you may find you get along better with your mom when things are just general. Just my thoughts.