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[Catty1]

I wonder if this will help...look up symptoms of adult ADD and leave them for your mom to see. Or show them to her when you are getting along, and tell her you are worried.

Have a look first and see if it fits.

Her reasons sure don't sound rational - but ADD might be part of it.

hugs!

[slleipnir]

I wonder if this will help...look up symptoms of adult ADD and leave them for your mom to see. Or show them to her when you are getting along, and tell her you are worried.

Have a look first and see if it fits.

Her reasons sure don't sound rational - but ADD might be part of it.

hugs!

She would laugh at me and or get angry.

[Catty1]

Well - why not look it up just for your own reference? See what you think.

It doesn't make her behaviour any better or nicer...but if it happens to be a Symptom, that might help YOU a bit.

hugs!

[Logan]

Even if you did suspect that your mom has ADD, I think that is the last thing in the world that you would want to bring to her attention.

Audrey, I hope that everything will settle down soon. Obviously, once you can get your own car and pay your own expenses, that will be one less argument for you and your mom. I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time with her.

Logan

[slleipnir]

Logan: I don't live with my mom, I almost never drive her car, and she doesn't give me money and I don't ask for it....I've lived with my dad my whole life, and she never had to pay money for me or buy me clothes etc when I was a kid. Don't get me wrong, she has given me more than she needed to/should....

I buy everything for myself. I still live with my dad, but anything I want, I buy. I pay for everything to do with my pets including food and vetting. so I don't think it has to do with that?

Thanks everyone for listening to me I talked to my dad and I feel a little better. he said it's ok for me to use his car this weekend to save me the trouble....

[Pembroke_Corgi]

I'm glad to hear you are feeling a little better. I'm sorry that it's hard having a relationship with your mother... I feel the same way about my dad.

He makes $20,000 more per year than my mom (they are divorced) but I NEVER ask him for anything, because if I do 1) I'll have to dance through hoops to get it 2) I'll be made to feel guilty/upset about it later in some way. I still see my dad but not much. I care about him but we never really talk about anything important. I hope you are able to have a relationship with your mother if that's what you want, but don't beat yourself up about HER issues.

[JenBKR]

((((hugs)))) sounds like a rough relationship with your mom. Have you guys ever tried to get some counseling? Sounds like maybe she wouldn't go for it, but it can't hurt to try. I think that the accident you had was a freak thing, and it still has you a bit shook up. That must have been scary. And then to have your mom react that way must have really hurt. I'm glad that you are able to come here and vent, because it sounds like that's what you really needed to do. I am glad that you have your dad, he seems like the rock that you need right now. More ((((hugs))))

[slleipnir]

Yeah, I don't know what I would do without my dad. He is always there for me no matter what. Mom always gets angry if we're out somewhere and I get upset and always need to call him. She says why can't I talk to her. I do, but he is the one who is there for me all the time....

It's hard to explain. My mom seems different. We use to get along really good. We would fight but she generally seemed to care about me. I always call her and ask how her day is and how she is feeling...she never calls me and sees how I am....Sometimes I honestly wonder if she still loves me...I know she does, but it's hard to believe sometimes. I know I'm being greedy and she probably has something wrong with her and I should be more caring to her...but you have no idea. I don't know how I could possibly care more and it's still not enough. I can't say "poor you mom" everytime she has a pain...that would be like 1309023902 times a day.

Oh well. I don't want you all thinking I'm talking badly of my mother, cause I'm not. I just can't take how she treats me. It really hurts to feel that your own mother doesn't want much to do with you...