If you still have these dreams about him, it shows that you want more than friends, and I think your ex senses that.

My suggestion? No contact. Do not write, phone, email, text, anything. YOu have to get him out of your system romantically before you can ever think about friendship.

I totally understand that you want to be able to be his friend. But if you love him - give him what HE wants. If he wanted to be with you, he would be, as a friend or otherwise.

If you only think about your feelings and what you want - that is selfish.

And this is totally unfair to your present boyfriend - you are cheating on him in your mind and heart. What did your present boyfriend do to deserve this dishonesty?

You might try being single for a while til you get 'partnership' figured out.

JMO