not even a little related to animals!

**jackie** · 09-06-2006, 01:13 PM

Why are you with man that you don't really want to be with.

What a waste of time for both of you. If you are interested in getting back together with your ex, you need to split up with your current boyfriend and work from there.

**coco-bean** · 09-06-2006, 01:15 PM

i am interested in my now boyfriend, it's not like i hate him, or dislike him...i truely like him! but i cant help these dreams i have all the time! if i didnt have the dreams i'd be okay, i wouldnt think about my ex nearly as much but the dreams bring back up feelings! Gr! haha! What are your thoughts on what dreams mean?

**JenBKR** · 09-06-2006, 01:21 PM

Well I'm not an expert, so I could be wrong, but it sounds to me like your subconscious is thinking about your ex an awful lot, and those thoughts are coming out in your dreams.

**coco-bean** · 09-06-2006, 01:26 PM

that makes alot of sense actually...like i totally think that could be it!

**Catty1** · 09-06-2006, 02:18 PM

If you still have these dreams about him, it shows that you want more than friends, and I think your ex senses that.

My suggestion? No contact. Do not write, phone, email, text, anything. YOu have to get him out of your system romantically before you can ever think about friendship.

I totally understand that you want to be able to be his friend. But if you love him - give him what HE wants. If he wanted to be with you, he would be, as a friend or otherwise.

If you only think about your feelings and what you want - that is selfish.

And this is totally unfair to your present boyfriend - you are cheating on him in your mind and heart. What did your present boyfriend do to deserve this dishonesty?

You might try being single for a while til you get 'partnership' figured out.

JMO

**coco-bean** · 09-06-2006, 02:37 PM

but the weird thing is...i havent talk to him in about 5 or 6 months....i apologized (actually ment it too) that last time i talk to him but that was the only thing that was said, and he accepted my apology and said thank you, and that was it! so thats why it's so weird to me...i dont talk to him, i dont see him, nothin! weird huh!?! haha

**Karen** · 09-06-2006, 02:46 PM

Originally Posted by coco-bean

but the weird thing is...i havent talk to him in about 5 or 6 months....i apologized (actually ment it too) that last time i talk to him but that was the only thing that was said, and he accepted my apology and said thank you, and that was it! so thats why it's so weird to me...i dont talk to him, i dont see him, nothin! weird huh!?! haha

Obviously, you still have feeling for this guy. You should either do your best to give up on him, acknowledge that it truly is over, and concentrate on yourself and even your current "boyfriend," if you care for him at all. You are young, there's no sense in "crying over spilt milk" at your age.