not even a little related to animals!

**JenBKR** · 09-06-2006, 12:55 PM

Did you try telling him you would like to be friends? I understand how you feel, believe me, I actually tried that with an ex of mine. In the end it didn't work out, and I have since moved on, but it's not always that easy. Will he talk to you at all?

**coco-bean** · 09-06-2006, 01:07 PM

depending on the subject and if it's TRUELY important! i think he needs alot more time, but night after nite for almost 2 years now it's a new dream about him, and in each dream we get back together and work through it and oh man, it's great, then i wake up(no offense at all to my "now" boyfriend) but look over and am truely disappointed in myself for letting it get that far, and not being with the one my heart wants! and Honestly...i'd wait 25 years to be with him!

time, time, time...sometimes it seems like it takes to long you know! but thats okay....

**jackie** · 09-06-2006, 01:13 PM

Why are you with man that you don't really want to be with.

What a waste of time for both of you. If you are interested in getting back together with your ex, you need to split up with your current boyfriend and work from there.

**coco-bean** · 09-06-2006, 01:15 PM

i am interested in my now boyfriend, it's not like i hate him, or dislike him...i truely like him! but i cant help these dreams i have all the time! if i didnt have the dreams i'd be okay, i wouldnt think about my ex nearly as much but the dreams bring back up feelings! Gr! haha! What are your thoughts on what dreams mean?

**JenBKR** · 09-06-2006, 01:21 PM

Well I'm not an expert, so I could be wrong, but it sounds to me like your subconscious is thinking about your ex an awful lot, and those thoughts are coming out in your dreams.

**coco-bean** · 09-06-2006, 01:26 PM

that makes alot of sense actually...like i totally think that could be it!

**Catty1** · 09-06-2006, 02:18 PM

If you still have these dreams about him, it shows that you want more than friends, and I think your ex senses that.

My suggestion? No contact. Do not write, phone, email, text, anything. YOu have to get him out of your system romantically before you can ever think about friendship.

I totally understand that you want to be able to be his friend. But if you love him - give him what HE wants. If he wanted to be with you, he would be, as a friend or otherwise.

If you only think about your feelings and what you want - that is selfish.

And this is totally unfair to your present boyfriend - you are cheating on him in your mind and heart. What did your present boyfriend do to deserve this dishonesty?

You might try being single for a while til you get 'partnership' figured out.

JMO