Input please.

**dragonfly** · 09-04-2006, 01:55 AM

Like others said I think it all depends on the situation in the family and with the child. If their child has proven themselves to be trustworthy and they have open communication with their parents then I don't see much need for them to be spyed on. I don't like the idea of recording peoples conversations without just cause, I think that crosses the line.

**Jessika** · 09-04-2006, 02:33 AM

It depends on the situation and the child's history. I think if you are under 18 then what your parents say, goes, period. If you aren't doing anything to get you in trouble, then it shouldn't matter if your parents have those programs on the computer or not. The ones who get really upset are the ones who have something to hide.

**G535** · 09-04-2006, 03:27 AM

Most computer smart kids can work around that sort of "protection", if you can't then don't say anything that you wouldn't want your parents to read. I also think it's an invasion of privacy to read kids emails and conversations without a very good reason.

**Kfamr** · 09-04-2006, 05:22 AM

As long as children live in their parents home for FREE - parents have every and any right to do whatever they want with the internet/computer.

**Pawsitive Thinking** · 09-04-2006, 05:48 AM

I've always told Katie that I trust her 100% until she shows me evidence to the contrary and then I will be on her like a ton of bricks!

I would certainly rather have her in the same room msning her mates than hanging around outside with them

**GreyhoundGirl** · 09-04-2006, 07:20 AM

I said " no" My dad puts it on but (

) I put on a blocker. I never go on any wierd sites, but I still don't think it's his buisness what sites I'm on. If I didn't have my blocker, he could read what I'm saying right now. ( and so could my brother ) Plus, both of them could access my files. ( journal, diary, pics, ect. )

**Lady's Human** · 09-04-2006, 08:05 AM

Reasons that it IS your parent's business which sites you are visiting:

They are legally responsible for your actions. (Downloading music, p2p filesharing, etc. makes your parents legally liable should you download or share anything that violates copyrights)

They are legally responsible for your safety.

If you download a virus, who pays for the cleanup?

**Suki Wingy** · 09-04-2006, 04:28 PM

depends on the person. My mom has told be she trusts me in a lot of things and she is right too, I have a strong conciense.(sp?) If the kid is known to do things like that then I think the parents should.

**Cataholic** · 09-04-2006, 08:22 AM

Originally Posted by Jessika

It depends on the situation and the child's history. I think if you are under 18 then what your parents say, goes, period. If you aren't doing anything to get you in trouble, then it shouldn't matter if your parents have those programs on the computer or not. The ones who get really upset are the ones who have something to hide.

I have said it before, but, you may just well be the most mature 'kid' I know! Those are my thoughts, exactly. My 'job' as a parent isn't to make you like me, it is to protect you, and raise you with the skills you need to make it in this world.

**Miss Z** · 09-04-2006, 08:49 AM

I don't have a 'net nanny' on my computer, and I would not want one. I don't visit any 'bad' sites or get involved in anything I find slightly fishy on the internet, so I suppose it would not be such a big problem for me. However, I really despise anyone watching me type or read anything on the computer, especially when I'm posting on Pet Talk or talking to PT members on Gabbly. Some things I write may be personal, and as the mark of a stereotypical teenager

, I really don't want my parents to know EVERYTHING that I think or do and I don't want them to be reading conversations I've had with my friends. Also, I would probably take it as kind of an insult that my parents didn't trust me and felt like they had to watch my every move like I'm some naive little toddler.

However though, if there was a cause for concern in any family I can see why it would be a good idea.

**Laura's Babies** · 09-04-2006, 09:53 AM

I agree with what Lady's Human said. The parents ARE responsiable. It is their computer/phone/cable service/house so they should monitor what their children are doing rather they are on the computer or out in the yard.

You can bet parents of missing children that went off to meet someone they met on a computer WISHES they has monitored what their child was doing.

**jackie** · 09-04-2006, 10:25 AM

If I was a teenager, I would probably be saying it is an invasion of privacy, but now I am a bit older and I see things a bit differently.

When I have children I would use some sort of monitoring program on the computer and let my child know it was there. The risks are pretty high these days.

**Jessika** · 09-04-2006, 11:51 AM

Originally Posted by Cataholic

I have said it before, but, you may just well be the most mature 'kid' I know! Those are my thoughts, exactly. My 'job' as a parent isn't to make you like me, it is to protect you, and raise you with the skills you need to make it in this world.

Aw thank you very much

i've had the pleasure of having a sister much younger than myself so over the years I've sort of helped "raise" her so I have a much different viewpoint on things than most kids my age would. I'd like to think so, anyway!