Input please.

**cali** · 09-04-2006, 12:44 AM

I know my mom used to read my e-mails so I stuck a passward on it. I do NOT want my mom reading stuff I say on the net. the only trouble I have gotten into is with breeders, when I have outright and publicly confronted them on their practices lol oh and quiet a ew people have threatend to sue me, and when I was underage they called my mom to let her know they were ready to sue me

but really, I am an EXTREMLY private person, my best friend is the only one who truly knows anything about me, I am not close with my parents, I tell them nothing about myself, and I like it that way, if they were to spy on what I said, reading all my conversations all my privacy would be gone, I would no longer feel like there is a place I could be myself anymore, I would likley avoid typing anything at all, and only lurk, I just HATE being watched, I couldent handle it in school either, if the teacher walked by, I would automaticly cover my work and stop everything till they were gone.

**CagneyDog** · 09-04-2006, 12:54 AM

Now that I think more about it, I have no problem with showing him who I talk to, what sites I'm on etc. I just really would rather not have him READING my conversations. I think that that's where it crosses the line. It's not even that I'm talking about anything really private, it's just, I rather not have him reading about who I like, what my friends did on the weekend, and what I think on various subjects. It's embarresing. With that being said, this isn't a massive issue as I'm not 'in the wrong'. I was just wondering peoples opinions.

**Roxyluvsme13** · 09-04-2006, 01:03 AM

If there's a reason, then yes It's okay, but if they're just spying on you to see what you say, absolutely not. My mom doesn't know how to work a computer very well, so I don't have a program on mine. I'm trusted, I'm a good kid, and she trusts me. She wouldn't invade my privacy.

**dragonfly** · 09-04-2006, 01:55 AM

Like others said I think it all depends on the situation in the family and with the child. If their child has proven themselves to be trustworthy and they have open communication with their parents then I don't see much need for them to be spyed on. I don't like the idea of recording peoples conversations without just cause, I think that crosses the line.

**Jessika** · 09-04-2006, 02:33 AM

It depends on the situation and the child's history. I think if you are under 18 then what your parents say, goes, period. If you aren't doing anything to get you in trouble, then it shouldn't matter if your parents have those programs on the computer or not. The ones who get really upset are the ones who have something to hide.

**G535** · 09-04-2006, 03:27 AM

Most computer smart kids can work around that sort of "protection", if you can't then don't say anything that you wouldn't want your parents to read. I also think it's an invasion of privacy to read kids emails and conversations without a very good reason.

**Kfamr** · 09-04-2006, 05:22 AM

As long as children live in their parents home for FREE - parents have every and any right to do whatever they want with the internet/computer.

**Cataholic** · 09-04-2006, 08:22 AM

Originally Posted by Jessika

It depends on the situation and the child's history. I think if you are under 18 then what your parents say, goes, period. If you aren't doing anything to get you in trouble, then it shouldn't matter if your parents have those programs on the computer or not. The ones who get really upset are the ones who have something to hide.

I have said it before, but, you may just well be the most mature 'kid' I know! Those are my thoughts, exactly. My 'job' as a parent isn't to make you like me, it is to protect you, and raise you with the skills you need to make it in this world.

**Miss Z** · 09-04-2006, 08:49 AM

I don't have a 'net nanny' on my computer, and I would not want one. I don't visit any 'bad' sites or get involved in anything I find slightly fishy on the internet, so I suppose it would not be such a big problem for me. However, I really despise anyone watching me type or read anything on the computer, especially when I'm posting on Pet Talk or talking to PT members on Gabbly. Some things I write may be personal, and as the mark of a stereotypical teenager

, I really don't want my parents to know EVERYTHING that I think or do and I don't want them to be reading conversations I've had with my friends. Also, I would probably take it as kind of an insult that my parents didn't trust me and felt like they had to watch my every move like I'm some naive little toddler.

However though, if there was a cause for concern in any family I can see why it would be a good idea.

**Jessika** · 09-04-2006, 11:51 AM

Originally Posted by Cataholic

I have said it before, but, you may just well be the most mature 'kid' I know! Those are my thoughts, exactly. My 'job' as a parent isn't to make you like me, it is to protect you, and raise you with the skills you need to make it in this world.

Aw thank you very much

i've had the pleasure of having a sister much younger than myself so over the years I've sort of helped "raise" her so I have a much different viewpoint on things than most kids my age would. I'd like to think so, anyway!