My first impression is, and I'm only expressing an opinion, is that you'd be better off without the boyfriend anyway. Your life is, obviously, very full because of the love you have for your dogs. You don't need to have the negativity that he brings to your life. He doesn't share the feelings you have for your dogs and that will always be a wedge between you. Furthermore, there isn't anything selfish in chosing not to be a parent if that's how you feel. Just some objective observations.
Labmomma