Thanks Donna. Me and my sister haven't been real close but close enough, I would never let her do this on her own.

The attorney said an interesting thing yesterday, he said most likely you will get the most help moneywise and help wise from the folks with the least money and least time. He is right, people from my brothers church who I know don't have a lot of money are giving of themselves unselfishly right now.
My cousin whom I haven't seen for 15 years sent my niece a check yesterday and a card, I am not kidding my sister has not contacted my niece once. She paid for his cremation, I am getting that back to her through the estate, I don't want that from her, I want support and help.

One good thing is I have made some really lovely friends that my brother had, I am so glad he had those friends around him.

I know my sister didn't like my brother, he is not a bad person, just too religious and too lazy for her I guess. Her house is always immaculate and anything else doesn't live up to her standards.