The old saying "do unto others as you would have them do to you" pops into my mind while reading this thread. I would be really hurt if I felt like someone couldn't or wouldn't come to me with concerns or criticisms or whatever-have-you; but would stoop to read my email to find out the skinny on what was going on in my life.

Now, if we are talking about CHILDREN, then I think it should be ALL out on the table at all times. But when my children become adults (over 18), are making their own decisions, and facing their own consequences, then snooping into their personal business is just SO wrong.