What's the deal? (crossposted by request)

[Cataholic]

Example: I am a member of the Hettie 3T washing machine forum. I doubt if many folks here could give a hoot about my washing machine and its troubles. So I spare everyone the stories about my washing machine. If someone wants to PM me about the 3T, fine.

Is that code for something? LOLOL....I would find this somewhat interesting, and, of course, seeing as it was posted by you, I would respond immediately.

Why? Cause I like you. I like your style, the way you don't whine all over the place about who does or does not respond to your post, cause you are 'mature', like me (and, I am not meaning others are immature), and best of all, why would I respond to you, and maybe not others? Cause it is my God given right. Sheesh...kind of like trying to make another kid play with you in the sandbox, you just can't force it.

Seriously, and maybe a bit more gently said: many of us have taken yearS to get to know one another, have built up a relationship over losses, gains, grieving, and joy. We 'know' one another. For someone to suggest, insist or imply that we all have to be "insta-friends", by responding to what might be portrayed as runonposters is a bit insulting.

Who likes whom, who has more posts than someone else, or who replies more/less/too much to others is really pretty much like high school (and maybe junior high) behaviour, something I am quite proud to admit is WAY in my distant past.

Who. Really. Cares.

And, look at it this way. You have now had plenty of people respond to one of your threads, posted in at least two places that I am aware of. Now EVERYONE knows you. Infamy at its best, eh?

[Sevaede]

Is that code for something? LOLOL....I would find this somewhat interesting, and, of course, seeing as it was posted by you, I would respond immediately.

Why? Cause I like you. I like your style, the way you don't whine all over the place about who does or does not respond to your post, cause you are 'mature', like me (and, I am not meaning others are immature), and best of all, why would I respond to you, and maybe not others? Cause it is my God given right. Sheesh...kind of like trying to make another kid play with you in the sandbox, you just can't force it.

Seriously, and maybe a bit more gently said: many of us have taken yearS to get to know one another, have built up a relationship over losses, gains, grieving, and joy. We 'know' one another. For someone to suggest, insist or imply that we all have to be "insta-friends", by responding to what might be portrayed as runonposters is a bit insulting.

Who likes whom, who has more posts than someone else, or who replies more/less/too much to others is really pretty much like high school (and maybe junior high) behaviour, something I am quite proud to admit is WAY in my distant past.

Who. Really. Cares.

And, look at it this way. You have now had plenty of people respond to one of your threads, posted in at least two places that I am aware of. Now EVERYONE knows you. Infamy at its best, eh?

It sure is wonderful to have things taken completely out of context and the opposite of the way you intended.

I am not assuming or insinuating anything. I understand that friendships take time to build. ALL I AM SAYING is that I am putting out the effort to build a friendship and (before this post and the *kind* replies that some folks showed they *do* care) nobody seemed to want to build with me.

I. Am. Not. Complaining. About. Posts. Amounts. Or. Views. I. Was. Using. That. As. An. Example. For. Something. Wah.

It's a matter of trying and having nothing to show for your efforts. But, thanks to the positive PTers, I am feeling more optimistic and realizing that I do have some things to show for my effort.

[sasvermont]

Here is a link to an article on the HE3T washing machine.

swoosh

and here is the forum web site.....lots to offer.... enjoy....

forums



And then there is the oh so facinating laundry forum, itself.....

Hettie / Kenmore Elite washers and dryers......ZZZZ

[Logan]

SAS, if Johanna hadn't asked, I would have! I had never heard of a Hettie washer before.

Wenisrubber, no one is making light of what you said. I think that some of us who have hung out here for a long time now (from since the beginning of Pet Talk) have seen similar posts from newer members, like you, many times over the years. 5 of my best friends in the world, I met on this board. It was not overnight, though. We just naturally gravitated to each other's style. I have limited Pet Talk time these days. I'm trying to do a better job of jumping in more often lately as I missed so much for a while. But yes, you are right, if I have limited time, I'm going to open the post from one of my good friends or someone I'm familiar with first. I know that probably doesn't seem fair in the way that you guys are looking at this, but that's how it is in reality. I am 43 years old. I have a 3000 sq ft home on an acre of land and am responsible for the upkeep of all of that. I am married to a wonderful man who works very hard and there are responsibilities that go along with that too. I have a 15 1/2 year old daughter who is quite demanding and I LOVE that she wants me around. I have two step children who, when they are here, need my attention as well. I have 3 dogs (including a young puppy), a cat, 2 cockatiels and a fish to care for. And I have a full time job, plus various outside volunteer activities that take up time. So when I get a precious few minutes to jump on Pet Talk, I'm going to have to focus in quickly on responding to the posts that I quickly recognize or the ones that include issues that are at the forefront of my mind, then if I have time, I love to read other posts. Most of the time I couldn't tell you who initiated them, though. If the topic lures me in or if it has a lot of responses, I go there (of course many times I also leave as quickly as I got there when it is a heated discussion that goes on and on). I don't know if I have ever responded to a post you have initiated. Sorry, if I haven't. It was certainly not intentional.

I know that there are a lot of us who, at one time or another, felt like we were the "death of a thread". I have laughed over this with several people over the years.

For me, these forums are for pleasure. When they start to get stressful, its time to move on to something else. I have plenty of things to stress me in my life and this is certainly not the place I would come if it was upsetting me. Nor would I go to my other groups if I got upset over them.

I hope that things will get better for you soon. We truly are glad you're here!

Logan

[Sevaede]

SAS, if Johanna hadn't asked, I would have! I had never heard of a Hettie washer before.

Wenisrubber, no one is making light of what you said. I think that some of us who have hung out here for a long time now (from since the beginning of Pet Talk) have seen similar posts from newer members, like you, many times over the years. 5 of my best friends in the world, I met on this board. It was not overnight, though. We just naturally gravitated to each other's style. I have limited Pet Talk time these days. I'm trying to do a better job of jumping in more often lately as I missed so much for a while. But yes, you are right, if I have limited time, I'm going to open the post from one of my good friends or someone I'm familiar with first. I know that probably doesn't seem fair in the way that you guys are looking at this, but that's how it is in reality. I am 43 years old. I have a 3000 sq ft home on an acre of land and am responsible for the upkeep of all of that. I am married to a wonderful man who works very hard and there are responsibilities that go along with that too. I have a 15 1/2 year old daughter who is quite demanding and I LOVE that she wants me around. I have two step children who, when they are here, need my attention as well. I have 3 dogs (including a young puppy), a cat, 2 cockatiels and a fish to care for. And I have a full time job, plus various outside volunteer activities that take up time. So when I get a precious few minutes to jump on Pet Talk, I'm going to have to focus in quickly on responding to the posts that I quickly recognize or the ones that include issues that are at the forefront of my mind, then if I have time, I love to read other posts. Most of the time I couldn't tell you who initiated them, though. If the topic lures me in or if it has a lot of responses, I go there (of course many times I also leave as quickly as I got there when it is a heated discussion that goes on and on). I don't know if I have ever responded to a post you have initiated. Sorry, if I haven't. It was certainly not intentional.

I know that there are a lot of us who, at one time or another, felt like we were the "death of a thread". I have laughed over this with several people over the years.

For me, these forums are for pleasure. When they start to get stressful, its time to move on to something else. I have plenty of things to stress me in my life and this is certainly not the place I would come if it was upsetting me. Nor would I go to my other groups if I got upset over them.

I hope that things will get better for you soon. We truly are glad you're here!

Logan

Ah, indeed. I understand where one opens posts (first) of those who you are familiar with. I think everyone does that, it's just something you do.

I am married and have householdly duties (as I am having trouble finding a job), as well. They do take up quite a bit as I am always doing things two, or three, or four times because if something is pretty dirty then it is too dirty for me to just let one sponge swipe or a once over with a vacuum to be satisfied.

Heh, I am sure I'll be having those convos eventually!

Thank you very much! I am glad everyone else is here. PT is truly a reprieve from, well, a lot of things.

[sasvermont]

Quoted from Logan's last post.......

"For me, these forums are for pleasure. When they start to get stressful, its time to move on to something else. I have plenty of things to stress me in my life and this is certainly not the place I would come if it was upsetting me. Nor would I go to my other groups if I got upset over them."

Ditto, ditto, ditto.

[Logan]

Dionne, I don't know you, and I don't know Wenisrubber (whose name, I assume, is Angelique, either). I would get to know you, one day, probably, through continued posting by both of you.

You are a good friend to be so defensive of your friend, but at the same time, I think that your message carries almost "hate" instead of concern. That is sad to me. I think there have been a tremendous amount of responses to this thread in Cat General and in the Dog House, where it was originally posted. They may not necessarily be what was hoped for, but that is one of the things that happens on these message boards. If you post a concern or a question, then you have to be ready for the responses.

I don't know if I'm included in the group that you are angry with. I had to consider that given that you responded not too long after I posted my response. I did send a PM to Wenisrubber, apologizing if I was offensive, because I certainly did not mean to be, nor do I ever mean to be in any post that I post.

This is a terrific forum, made up of wonderful pet lovers and some people are going to "click" and some are not going to. I think that was the general message that came through loud and clear in this whole thread. It is sad that she felt like no one was respecting her opinions, but like I said before, I think every single one of us have been there. And it comes with time, too.

Please rethink your anger and try to understand people's responses without getting so bent out of shape. I just hate it when people get so upset.

With best intentions,
Logan

[dionne]

no logan it wasn't directed towards you. you were one of the ones who actually made sense in the matter. i must admit, there probably WAS a little bit of hate in that post, but i have no respect whatsoever for people who are rude, careless and cruel for no reason, and seemingly without thinking. that makes me more angry than anything, and watching angelique having to defend herself over and over against remarks made by those who acted so just made me so angry. if you are my friend, especially my best friend, then any kind of hurt you feel, i feel too. i don't like seeing people sad or angry either.

and yes, i realize that there were a tremendous amount of responses to the this one and the other in dog house. i must say, i could NOT find any responses in the dog house that came even CLOSE to the negative ones here in cat general. but, i do not think she put this thread up for the responses, and considering some of the stuff that WAS put on this one, i think she couldve done without. she put it up to make a point. and i whole heartedly agree with her point.

and i will say it again: thank you to the people who responded with kind hearts, and some sense. you are included in this, logan.

so, my anger is rethought, and tho i cannot help but feel hatred towards those who are cruel, i do apologize to those of you who felt like my last post on here was directed towards them.

thankyou for speaking up on this, logan. if anyone else feels the same, please let me know, and i will try my best to right the wrong.

dionne

[catlady1945]

I know what you mean. I think people respond to their friends' posts. Or maybe my cats are just boring!

[lbaker]

"..you imbeciles" "..selfish asses" Then you go on to say ".. nobody needs your rudeness - take it somewhere else" Physician heal thyself.

[Cataholic]

"..you imbeciles" "..selfish asses" Then you go on to say ".. nobody needs your rudeness - take it somewhere else" Physician heal thyself.

Think that was bad? Go see what she posted in the DH! I just don't get people bashing others for allegedly bashing others. But, my energies are wasted on the young anymore (except Jonah, that is )