I hope she can get over her fear. She just has to unlearn the idea that she is going to be abused, if that is what her past experience taught her. I think your husband is supposed to give her praise and treats and you would be responsible for discipline, so she associates him only with good things. I know that's the basic idea I'm sure you can find more specific techniques online or in a book. Runner I know you can get over your fear! Good luck!