I need help, please, with (I think) aggressive behaviour. UPDATE.

[catnapper]

This advice accuaully will help me and Mike with OUR crew

LOL... I didn't say it was foolproof because they certainly still go at each other. She was screaming her head off last night "trapped" under the bed. Now I KNOW Pouncer can get under the bed with her but its more fun to run around the perimeter of the bed hissing and swatting at her!

but it DOES seem to be working. She's starting to trust Pouncer again. I doubt they'll ever go back to cuddling and grooming each other, but now she can be on the same surface as Pouncer without a look of fear in her eyes. Here she is last week... actually giving the basket headbumpies... the very basket Pouncer is sitting in!



edit: technically she's not on the same surface as Pouncer... he's on a pile of clothes. LOL I've often said in my "who's the brown tabby" threads that you could always tell Abby because she'll be on a completely different surface than Pouncer or separated by at least 2 other cats.

[KitCat]

When the boy cat attacks the girl confine him to another room. That's all you can do untill she's fixed.

[rg_girlca]

When the boy cat attacks the girl confine him to another room.

I was just going to say the same thing. Since it seems to make you uncomfortable putting Isis alone in the room. Maybe you can just do this when no one is home, so she doesn't have to endure his attacks alone and then let her back out while you are home to keep an eye on things.

When I was having problems with my boys, the one that was causing the problem at the time, got scolded and was put alone in a closed room for a few hours. They learned after a while to settle down. I still have a few incidents now and then, but not like I use too, especially since the "Peacekeeper" came into the house.

[Sevaede]

Heh, thanks everyone! All your replies are greatly appreciated!

That is what everyone is pretty much in agreement on (including myself aka that person in De Nile ).

I will be seperating them for the time being and then, after she's spayed, maybe they'll learn to get along again. I'll have to set aside a couple of hours each day to cuddle and play with each of them (as we all usually hang out and play at the same/most of the time) when I'm not doing anything that would be unagreeable to the particular situation (such as any sort of cleaning beyond laundry and dishes)! Is there any other things that I can do to divy up time and to make sure neither feels left out?

I went to a local pet store t o see if I could find some Feliway for the mean time. I could not.

It is a big time stresser for Isis when she goes to the vet and so we would both love to minimize the time for her. I mean, we're talking about big hair loss and hardly-can-get-em-out-of-their-carrier). I know *how* (have been doing it for a couple years now with the parents and vets okays) to give her vaccinations I just don't know how to get her to let me do them. Any ideas? I would like to do this so her vet visits will go down from 4 to 2 (for her sake).

[Catty1]

Where I live, Feliway is only available from vets, as it is a pheromone spray.

Someone also suggested Bach flower remedies, which you can find at a health store.

But since Feliway has the actual cat hormone in it - the one that is released when they give head bumpies(the hormones are released in front of the ears), I think that might be the one to go for.

Good luck!

[catnapper]

Feliway has changed its packaging and the name... at least thats what I noiteced in the store I work. Its now going by the name "Comfort Zone" and is in a bubble gum pink package

[Sevaede]

Catty, that may be the way it works here, as well, because I have not seen it the last few times that I've been out! I'll speak to my vet about getting some!

catnapper, really? o_O I wonder why they decided to change it and if the people who buy it regularly know about it or recognize it. Does it have some sort of identifying thing that says "formerly known as Feliway" or something like that?