Thanks everyone, I was leaning towards flying anyway - knowing that I just cannot live my life this way - and give away my freedom.

Karen, I am going to Napa - flying into Oakland.

The last time I did this - I had a ride up to Oakland and then flew home, therefore I had only a one way ticket. Boy, did I ever get the once over - shoes, baggage search, purse search, the whole nine yards. It didn't bother me one bit - but obviously a one-way ticket raises huge flags.