Don't know what to do......(CHANGE OF PLANS)

[Almita]

Thanks Vette i appreciate your help also. ~hug back atcha.

[heinz57_79]

I know how it feels to be uprooted and move. i've done it pretty much every 3 years since I was born. But it has never been a spur of the moment decision. From the time I was 12, and old enough to have an opinion, my dad discussed it with me and my step-mom. Moving should never be the decision of a single person when it will affect many more. There are so many factors that go into moving and it can be so disruptive.

You mentioned wanting to finish high school in Mesa (I'm in tucson, btw ) and go to college (i'm guessing ASU or even UofA down here). I think those are both very good reasons to stay. I don't know how old you are, or how much longer you have til you graduate, but moving in the last couple years of high school would not be a good idea. Curriculums are different, and there's a good chance that whatever they're studying in Utah the students would have been used to from the get-go. It could be a major set-back coming in so late in the game.

Some possible alternatives to present to your dad (if you want):

1 - Suggest that, if he wants to move, he does so after you graduate and get into college. You can live in the dorms and be out of the house thereby giving your parents a certain freedom. Stress the importance of your education.

2 - Would there be a way to live with your grandparents or another family member while you finish school? If you stayed with your grandparents you could probably help them out too.

Just a couple of ideas. Good luck! Hang in there, everything happens for a reason!

[Almita]

I know how it feels to be uprooted and move. i've done it pretty much every 3 years since I was born. But it has never been a spur of the moment decision. From the time I was 12, and old enough to have an opinion, my dad discussed it with me and my step-mom. Moving should never be the decision of a single person when it will affect many more. There are so many factors that go into moving and it can be so disruptive.

You mentioned wanting to finish high school in Mesa (I'm in tucson, btw ) and go to college (i'm guessing ASU or even UofA down here). I think those are both very good reasons to stay. I don't know how old you are, or how much longer you have til you graduate, but moving in the last couple years of high school would not be a good idea. Curriculums are different, and there's a good chance that whatever they're studying in Utah the students would have been used to from the get-go. It could be a major set-back coming in so late in the game.

Some possible alternatives to present to your dad (if you want):

1 - Suggest that, if he wants to move, he does so after you graduate and get into college. You can live in the dorms and be out of the house thereby giving your parents a certain freedom. Stress the importance of your education.

2 - Would there be a way to live with your grandparents or another family member while you finish school? If you stayed with your grandparents you could probably help them out too.

Just a couple of ideas. Good luck! Hang in there, everything happens for a reason!

Thank you very much. Yea i don't get why my dad wants to move and its probably just because he likes it there. I still haven't talked to him because he is out of town for work right now.
Yes i'm almost done with highschool just 3 years but i want to be in my school and i love that school the teachers teach things very well. For me i want to go to NAU that is in Flagstaff.
I don't get why he wants to move there we did 4 years ago and my mother and I didn't like it. But like what Vette said i'm going to have to talk to him one on one or even with my mother to and ask him why he wants to get property there and a house.

I don't think i can move in with my grandparents because, my grandpa is about to cross over the bridge, my grandma isn't feeling to good she is getting into the stage she doesn't feel like doing anything, and my aunt there is a teacher and so is my uncle and they are mostly gone and they also live 3 hours away from Phoenix.

But thanks for the first suggestion I think I will tell him that when i'm done with high school.

[Dorothy39]

1 - Suggest that, if he wants to move, he does so after you graduate and get into college. You can live in the dorms and be out of the house thereby giving your parents a certain freedom. Stress the importance of your education. :


I've kept up on your thread. This time in your life is very important,you know that.

You need to speak up, and become a part of this plan to move. It will affect your future. My parents uprooted me from High School right after my Sophomore Year---It still affects me to this day.!!!!

I strongly urge you to confer with your Father on this matter!!! you are only young once!!!!