I'm so sorry about your loss. As I was reading I was just thinking of how your family's world as been turned on end. You have so much to get straightened out about your niece. When my mom died two years ago I remember the people at the funeral home were able to answer my questions on how to take care of her business. It was simple things since my father is still living but they had so much information. Maybe whoever handles your brother's funeral can at least point you in the right direction for your niece.

Your new kitty is beautiful. I'm so glad she is already fitting in and affectionate. As for her fleas, if you use Advantage on the dogs you can use a smaller dosage of their stuff on the cat. There are several multicat owners who do that here and can probably give you the correct dosage size for her. Please don't use the over the counter flea stuff, like by Hartz. I've heard horrible stuff about those products making cats and dogs very sick.