Oh, I know you do...hence I also wrote to PCB:

I wish we could just make them all safe and teach them realities that don't involve revenge...and we have to watch what we teach our children at home.

Please take care of yourself - you can only change this by starting with yourself and your own children, if and when you have them.
When I was 19, I had a fellow interested in me; he was of another faith...never mind that my own household didn't follow the faith into which they were born - but heck, we hadn't even really DATED - and my mom got alarmed and told me, "He can never marry you!" (Because of HIS faith, not mine...she said he wouldn't be allowed to.)

Hello? No one was anywhere NEAR talking about that. But ignorance - at the very least - does begin at home, and hatred is just further down the same road.

hugs!