Why couldn't I just...

[gini]

Thank you. As I cry like a baby. He's taken his stuff and gone, now I'm alone.

No you aren't - you have all of us - who care and will respond when you need us.

I know that this is a very difficult time for you - and my heart goes out to you.

[Queen of Poop]

No you aren't - you have all of us - who care and will respond when you need us.

I know that this is a very difficult time for you - and my heart goes out to you.

Thank you. Thank you so very, very much.

[K9soul]

My situation is really different in some ways.. but I am going through the death of my relationship with my husband, the man whom for 11 years I have felt was my soulmate. The pain is indescribable, excruciating, harder than anything I've gone through in my life. So I do feel I know a measure of the pain in your heart, the fear, insecurity, and devastation. If you need to talk, I'm only a PM away. You are in my thoughts, and in my prayers. Please hold onto the fact that you are a very special person, a worthy person, and deserving of the same kind of love you feel for your husband. You have us here at PT, and are not alone. Never forget that.

[momoffuzzyfaces]

REMEMBER: THERE ARE WORSE THINGS IN LIFE THAN BEING ALONE!!!

I've never been married but I've had a couple of near misses!!! Each time my engagements ended, I thought my life had too! Then I started remembering how they treated me or mistreated me and I realized if I never have another man in my life that treats me that way, I'll die a happy women!!!

I do NOT need someone in my life who constantly critizes me!
I do NOT need someone in my life who thinks they are better than me!
I do NOT need someone in my life who demands their own way all the time!
I do NOT need someone in my life who constantly puts others before me!
I WILL NOT have anyone in my life who abuses me or makes me feel less of myself than I am.

I had a friend whose father told her that "you are not better than anyone else on the planet but you are sure AS GOOD as they are!"

I tend to believe that now.

Heck, your husband should be grateful he has you! I'd have drop kicked him to the curb a long time ago!

By the way, both of the guys came back and wanted me to take them back; they got the door slammed in their faces !!!

[Catty1]

Here's a board I have posted on(the only other board I HAVE ever posted on). It is breakup support, and has good people on it...or I wouldn't have stayed there for two years.

Please check it out; like here, it is free, but you have to register. Or just post as a guest.

www.breakingup.net

Catty1

[gini]

Just dropped by this thread to check up on you today.

Even though in numbers we don't have that many women (under 10,000 isn't a huge number), but we sure do have a wide range of experiences that we are willing to share in order to help you.

I have been divorced now for a number of years and I cannot begin to tell you how special it is to be who I am - not what someone else wants me to be for them.

A dear male friend (who also was my ex's best friend) told me that my ex was one of the most selfish people he had ever known. Boy, does that ever stop you in your tracks. I thought about that long and hard - and realized that he was right. Just that one sentence helped me more than I could begin to tell you.

[Queen of Poop]

I'm at work today. Haven't had any crying fits, yet. Typed up the events of the fight and then what followed and sent it to my counselor. She can't see me for a while but I figured I'd better get her up to speed while it's all fresh in my mind. Also sent a copy to hubby, which he promptly dissed as crap, it just served to make him more angry. While I still love him very much, I spent some time this morning going over my last 3 years worth of calendars, as I track the fighting/drinking episodes. Way too many for the good of any relationship. I don't know which way to turn. He is supposed to be finding us a family counselor as per his conditions. Perhaps this can help us become one again, or allow me to finally see the light and end it. At this point I don't know what I want.

[Vela]

I don't like to offer advice in situations like this, but I honestly don't see counseling as any sort of help. He seems abusive emotionally, rude, and inconsiderate, and unless he is going to do a 180 in his attitude, I don't see a lot for your future with him. I feel really bad saying anything like that but just from what you have said that is how it appears. I wish you the best of luck, I'm sure it's very difficult, but you need to think about you too, not him. He obvoiusly isn't thinking about you and yoru feelings in this at all, so try to take care of yourself the best you can.