Quote Originally Posted by Logan
Letting them know that you are sorry if you have said or done something that has hurt them in any way is a good thing to do. But, I also think they they should be asked (by your husband) to consider whether they might have done anything to hurt you, as well. Perhaps the counselling will accomplish this.

I do think that living seperately is the wrong thing to do. If you guys are committed to marriage, then this is sending mixed signals to those children and making them feel even more insecure than ever.

Count to ten or take a walk outside, away from the others, but leaving, as in going somewhere else, is again, wrong, in my opinion. I've had to do the time outs myself, over the years, to not say something that I shouldn't, or to get my emotions in check. But leave?? Never.

Do try and do your best to communicate and enjoy the vacation.

I think you guys have some major work ahead of you, but if you love your husband, and I think you do, you can come to some peace, and the children need to be a part of that.

Again, best wishes. I hope that you can work it out. Stable relationships are good for us as adults, and I think they are very, very important for the children, too.

Logan
I can't add anything more. I really believe Logan is right on with this advice - point by point. Perhaps you can broach these suggestions with your husband. Let's be fair now - he doesn't / shouldn't get an automatic pass on all of this. For God's sake you two are MARRIED - he needs to be in it with you - to and through the end!!!