Why couldn't I just...

[BOBS DAD]

Not one posting seemed the least bit sarcastic to me.

I think everyone should read ALL previous posts.,and re-read them if
necessary, before making such a comment. Unless you're big on 'stream
of consciousness type' postings.

I don't know what Stream of Consciousness is??? But you are correct that I should have read all of the posts before jumping into the discussion. If you looked to the very next posts you will see that I did just that...

OK... I have a better grasp of things now! Sorry to have jumped the gun. Karen's advice (as everyone's) is also quite good....

I guess what I meant to say was not "sarcasm" but rather I detected some some bitterness (not that it is not warranted) in Queen's original post and not total remorse for what has transpired (again - not that she should have). I only suggested that if she was sincere in any effort to reconcile and start over - Queen would have to let go of it. As Gini correctly points out - "we" being parents and step-parent "need to be the adult" and be bigger and perhaps swallow our pride in an effort to get back on track.

So now apparently she's had a problem with me for several months. Well sweetheart. From Feb 27 till May 9 I was fighting for my life with the lump in my left breast. I lost 1/3 of my breast, I'm a small girl, fortunately it wasn't cancer - yet. Sorry, Alex, if you weren't the centre of attention. Following that I've been nothing but happier than a pig in sh*&. Looking so forward to the holiday that she ruined by bawling for her mother. I totally blame her and her Aunt Dana for poisioning her against me. So my marriage will end on the comments of a 13 year old girl influenced by her 37 year old aunt.

Soon to be a 2 time loser.

Thanks for letting me vent. Now if I could only stop crying.

I am only saying that IMO in order to even attempt a reconciliation, an acceptance of what is (regardless of "how" it got that way) has to be in place and a realization that "she is 13" and is going to be a teenager for another 6 years. If my misuse of the noun "sarcasm" seemed totally inappropriate, I apologize. Hopefully Queen can get off on a new foot and begin the journey towards a more healthy relationship and long marriage!!!

[lizbud]

I don't know what Stream of Consciousness is??? But you are correct that I should have read all of the posts before jumping into the discussion. If you looked to the very next posts you will see that I did just that...

Stream of consciousness is
.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stream_of_consciousness

I did indeed read read the next postings. That was my whole point. You
would not have had to apologize later on for what you said earlier.

I thing I've really learned a little about the problems faced by step parents
and children. I've never been in that situation and had no idea how rough
it could be in blending familyies.

[BOBS DAD]

Stream of consciousness is
.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stream_of_consciousness

I did indeed read read the next posting. That was my whole point. You
would not have had to apologize later on for what you said earlier.

Point well taken!

I learned something to. I guess you see sitcoms on the subject and think, "ah, it can't be that bad".

No... it can be worse apparently!!!

[Queen of Poop]

So I spent the last 4 days at the lake with my family. I made my apology and that went ok. Then this morning I'm told by hubby that nothing has changed, that he will not reconsider our separation. I'm hurt, crushed, etc. My confidence is so far down the toilet I'm not sure it will come back up. We entertained his whole family yesterday so last night I took Sasha to bed and had a little quiet, unwind time. Apparently that was the wrong thing to do. He's mad over that. Honestly, doggie and I had a full day and we needed just to be cuddly and quiet. I can't do anything right. I need some advice on how to heal myself, rebuild my confidence and stop this incessant crying. I love him so much, I don't want to lose him, but I feel that I am. I need self confidence. I feel like such a wimp.

[Edwina's Secretary]

Gayle....I am so sorry for your pain. Perhaps a little breathing room for both of you....and the counseling...could be a good thing?

[caseysmom]

gee whiz okay I am getting mad now, he doesn't understand a little quiet time by yourself...for gods sake don't let him knock you down like that please.

[Karen]

You are a good person. Regardless of what he, or anyone around you thinks, you are a good person. You need to find it in yourself to acknowledge that.

You are The Queen of Poop! No one unworthy of love could be bestowed that honor, or so proclaim herself, right? A less noble person would think herself too prissy to deal with it, or too squeamish, but you are the Queen. Undaunted and fearless, you go places people who do not love animals as much would go.

You are the Queen. Let no one treat you otherwise.

You are a good person.

And we love you.

[Sevaede]

caseysmom and Karen said everything that I wanted to say.

*hug*

[gini]

I read your post and Karen's that followed last night. I didn't respond, but I woke up this morning thinking about you.

I really do not like the fact that your husband is calling all of the shots - and treating you this way. It sounds far too controlling and certainly doesn't set up a united front to deal with HIS kids.

Allow NO ONE to put you down or make you feel like a horrible person. Try to remember this - if you can - you know down deep that YOU ARE a good person.

If he makes you feel horrible - or the children do - then YOU ARE ALLOWING them to do this.

It sounds as though it is you against all of them - and I don't like that one bit.

It may take some intense family counselling (that's all of you) to unravel
what has happened here.

If I were in your situation, I sure would need some quiet time too. If he doesn't understand that.........then I really question who he is.

You are NOT a possession - you are his wife!

Forgive my bluntness please, this has really bothered me.

[Queen of Poop]

You are a good person. Regardless of what he, or anyone around you thinks, you are a good person. You need to find it in yourself to acknowledge that.

You are The Queen of Poop! No one unworthy of love could be bestowed that honor, or so proclaim herself, right? A less noble person would think herself too prissy to deal with it, or too squeamish, but you are the Queen. Undaunted and fearless, you go places people who do not love animals as much would go.

You are the Queen. Let no one treat you otherwise.

You are a good person.

And we love you.

Thank you. As I cry like a baby. He's taken his stuff and gone, now I'm alone.

[gini]

Thank you. As I cry like a baby. He's taken his stuff and gone, now I'm alone.

No you aren't - you have all of us - who care and will respond when you need us.

I know that this is a very difficult time for you - and my heart goes out to you.