Failure to thrive best news I have heard...UPDATED

[Logan]

What a mess! The worst part of divorce seems to be what happens to the children in the middle of it. I am so thankful that my ex husband and I never, ever let our feelings about each other get in the way of raising our daughter. To this day, over 13 years after our divorce, we are able to sensibly discuss any decision that regards our daughter. Her opinion, at 15, is that she is "lucky" to have two homes where she is loved, by her parents and her stepparents. I hope my husband's two children feel the same way.

Best of luck to both of you and to the children, who will thrive under your care. Counselling may be in order at some point for them, but the main thing is to have them in your care.

Logan

[DrKym]

Thank You! Both my husband and myself are counselors and we have asked colleagues to take the case. My ex and I have no issues either however some ppl fail to realize that children are a precious thing not property

[moosmom]

Logan,

I was the same way with my daughter. I never said anything bad about my ex-husband or his 6itch wife (do I sound hostile???) because I knew, as Amy got older, she'd see for herself how awful they were to me when Amy was growing up.

Amy lived with my ex and his wife from the time she was 5. Not that I HAVE to explain, but I felt that Amy was much better off with them, as they had a house and were financially able to care for her. I paid child support, believe me, till she was 18. To say they made my life a living hell is putting it mildly. There were times when I was ready to throw in the towel. But I knew if I gave up my parental rights, her stepmonster would tell her I didn't care about her and that's why I gave her up.

I never regret my decision. I handled it with dignity, never once saying a bad thing about either of them. Eventually, when Amy got older, she saw what they did to me and asked me why her stepmother hated me so much. I didn't go into any detail (her father was having an affair with a woman he worked with and her stepmother was losing her grip). I simply told her that her father and I caught Karen (stepmonster) in a lie.

[DrKym]

Moosmom
please dont take my post wrong I truly believe that most mothers think about their kids as you did and i am humbled by the fact that your love outweighed your desire to have her and you should be venerated. This mom NEVER wanted this child, and her sole purpose after us having him from his birth til 4.5 yrs was money

[Dorothy39]

I just read and re-read your post.

Oh My God, for the first time ever, I have learned that there are really happy endings for neglected children.

Okay, I cried before replying. ,

But, I feel so HAPPY for you and your family!!!!

You have given this child , this person, a voice. And in time, he will thrive--- & grow to be a fine strong man, (and hopefully eat you out of house and home in the process)


Bless You and Your Family!!!!

[DrKym]

Kathy coming from you that is a compliment beyond comapare, thank you ans Xan thanks you I am sure. now for all our prayers and hopes to protect such a small person and to make sure his voice is heard LOUD and CLEAR! btw the rescue dobe is his best friend not sure if the dog senses that he needs a protector or that they are both young and love to create mischeif! either way I am happy they bonded.