Chronic Disorganization

[sasvermont]

Hey, hang in there.

Clutter, both mental and physical can keep you unfocused. I think everyone has been disorganized at some point in the life. There are some folks who struggle with it. None of us are perfect. If you are in the middle of it, you know best when you have had enough.

I think, and I am not a professional on this topic, but, I think each of us knows what our problems are.....but sometimes just don't know how to fix them. You seem to be going in the direction you need to be going...seeking professional help.

I have worked with adults with ADD, married a guy who had a serious drinking problem...no longer married....but....anyway. I think you are looking for answers and that is so important for progress. Keep going in this direction and hopefully you will feel better about having been given the genes you have and the life you have had.....and maybe your life will be progressively better if you try to seek help to make changes.

Be kind to yourself. Things don't change overnight.

I wish you luck and lots of stength and you know, you have SO much support here.

If you think you are the only one with problems, you are not. None of us are perfect. Well. Maybe one person here may be perfect...... just kidding.....

We all have our basket of problems.

((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))).................. ..

SAS

[moosmom]

Catty1,

You got some great advice here. Believe me, there are times when when even I get into ruts like that. I feel down but don't know why. I've learned to try and figure out what triggered it. Sometimes I can, sometimes I can't. And you're right. You can't fix it unless you know what "it" is. I've figured out that every year from August 1 through December, I get into this funk. It has to do with my Dad's death, my Mom and Grandfather's death. It happens every year. I've learned to live with it.

Like everyone here said, don't be too hard on yourself. You've been though alot the past coupld of weeks.

((((HUGS))) and here's hoping you find out what "IT" is.

[Catty1]

Thanks, folks. BELIEVE me, I do NOT think I am the only one with problems! Actually, I wouldn't trade my life with anyone else's!

If I appear self-involved, it's because I look back over my life recently and realized "something" was ALWAYS not right...then I do some research and find quotes and symptom lists on the net - then "HOLY S***! NOW THIS MAKES SENSE!"

Yes, I HAVE been through a lot lately...but also recognize a lifelong pattern. Nothing huge or major, but just a constant jitter of experiences that could have been much different - healthier.

And, having FINALLY (after a couple of defiant decades) accepted my diagnosis of one chemical imbalance - it makes sense to me that another chemical might be involved.

Pam - you are absolutely right. And my point (with my mom's POV) is that it STARTS in the mental area and shows in the outward behaviour and way of living. My point with my Mom is that fixing this from the outside - where I am concerned - just WILL not work for any length of time, because I will not be able to keep it that way!

Do any of you find that, when a brain chemical is out of whack and presents physical symptoms - like Parkinson's - it is generally accepted as an illness? But when the symptoms are emotional or behavioural, one is expected to Suck It Up or Snap Out Of It?

OK, my little vent for today!

Thank you all very much...it is a scary time right now...

hugs hugs hugs
Catty1

[moosmom]

Do any of you find that, when a brain chemical is out of whack and presents physical symptoms - like Parkinson's - it is generally accepted as an illness? But when the symptoms are emotional or behavioural, one is expected to Suck It Up or Snap Out Of It?

Catty1,

Boy does THAT make me want to 6itch slap someone upside the head!! Like, "Helloooooooo, don't you think if it was THAT easy, I would've done it by now???"

I only wish it were that easy. I don't like taking meds anymore than anyone else. However, this is one problem I cannot seem to get away from. I've weaned myself off anti-depressants, with the help of my doctor, and tried herbal stuff. Nothing but the real stuff (meaning prescription) seemed to work. I never want to be in that "black" area again.

Depression also does a number on your sobriety. I can't tell you how many times I wanted a drink SOOOOOO badly. But instead of picking up the bottle, I picked up the needles. KNITTING NEEDLES that is! There are gonna be alot of people with nice scarves to keep them warm this winter!

You have to do what is right for YOU. We're here if you need us.

[Catty1]

Donna - you might know that Bill W., co-founder of AA, suffered from BLACK depressions his whole life. He died in 1972 of emphysema (never did quit smoking) - and there were no really effective meds til way after that. The ones before then would have been 'alcohol in pill form', in my opinion only.

I suspect a lot of us drinkers 'self-medicated' for years...and crossed the line into addiction.

Sorry - I still get into the paralysis of analysis!

Thank you for the support. I really hope for a solution here. I will keep you posted.

Catty1

[DrKym]

Catty I so empathize with you on this, I have Crohns disease, which means I look fine on the outside but I am not always fine on the inside. People will see me park in a handicap zone(with a tag of course0 and you wouldn't believe the comments I get because I am not in a wheelchair or on crutches! If someone knew the amount of pain it took to just walk into the store etc so that I could go home and lie down anyway ADD in adults is often misdiagnosed, my hubby Jaspers went for yrs without a diagnosis and He is on Zoloft and a few other meds to combat his disease. Hang in there it may take a few tries of mixing meds and doses to help you "get it" as you say, but be aware some of us are just naturally cluttery! My motto? a clean desk is the sign of a bored mind! LOL just a bit of humor to help you not be so hard on yourself. Good luck and Blessed Be!

[Catty1]

Thanks, Dr Goodnow...I have a friend whose adult daughter has been diagnosed with Crohn's (and is continuing to finish her RN studies this year, brave girl!)

I suggested the Aloe Beverage that I distribute...and I KNOW how people with chronic conditions get all sorts of things pushed at them. (my sister died of MS in April, after 20 years with it...and my dad had melanoma...so we got all SORTS of 'advice")

I am not pushing...I just know first hand that this gave great relief to her(still has meds) and another person with acid reflux.

Thank you for your words...I am sure gonig to nail this down. Almost 50 - but better late than never!

hugs
Catty1