How would you feel about this?

[Cataholic]

[QUOTE=JenBKR]

You can pick on me all you want, because you are right. I don't know why I have such a hard time just saying no.....but I have always been like that. I am not assertive much at all, and I feel kind of bad saying no. It's my husband's sister, and he had already told her that it would probably be ok (I am certainly going to have a little talk with him about his saying that).

Well, I don't mean to **really** pick on you. I am not being very sypathetic to you, am I? For me, assertive and Johanna belong in the same sentence, and I don't stop to realize that I just not be the model we all strive to be like.

Now, you have added some facts that change things a little...your hubbie shouldn't be lending out the car without the two of you being on the same page. Per chance, did he leave you to do the dirty work?

[JenBKR]

[QUOTE=Cataholic]

Well, I don't mean to **really** pick on you. I am not being very sypathetic to you, am I? For me, assertive and Johanna belong in the same sentence, and I don't stop to realize that I just not be the model we all strive to be like.

Now, you have added some facts that change things a little...your hubbie shouldn't be lending out the car without the two of you being on the same page. Per chance, did he leave you to do the dirty work?

haha I know you're not *really* picking on me...I think I need to take a page from your book. I wish I could be more assertive, and I'm actually better than I used to be.

I'm not sure if hubby wanted me to do the dirty work or actually believed that I'd be ok with it, but I think we're going to have a little talk tonight.....

[Samantha Puppy]

No. If they have a truck they'd let you borrow, tell them to use it themselves.

[elizabethann]

I don't mind when people borrow my car to go to run an errand or use it for the day because there car is in the shop. But to go on vacation? MMMM....no.

I don't understand? They have a truck. Why can't they just take that?

[JenBKR]

They don't want to take his truck because it's a gas hog.....

And they don't want to take her car because it is seriously a piece of junk. Also, they want a car with air conditioning...

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Not my precious car....no way

[Rachel]

They don't want to take his truck because it's a gas hog.....

And they don't want to take her car because it is seriously a piece of junk. Also, they want a car with air conditioning...

Then maybe they should be saving for a new car instead of taking a vacation!

This is the kind of *entitlement thinking* that really pushes my buttons. Somebody slap me before I get on my soap box.

[JenBKR]

Then maybe they should be saving for a new car instead of taking a vacation!

This is the kind of *entitlement thinking* that really pushes my buttons. Somebody slap me before I get on my soap box.

haha get ready to get on your soapbox, because there's a little part of this story that I didn't tell you yet, the part that sends me over the edge....

Her boyfriend just won $44,000 in the lottery....so it's not necessarily that they don't have the money, more like they don't want to spend it (although he's already blown through most of it.....)

[GiantSchnauzer]

Then maybe they should be saving for a new car instead of taking a vacation!

This is the kind of *entitlement thinking* that really pushes my buttons. Somebody slap me before I get on my soap box.

Exactly!

[DrKym]

I have been in your situation My daughter wanted to borrow my car for her and hubby and kids to go to Disney, I knew how the son in law drove (badly i wont ride with him lol) My daughter hates driving so educated guess that it would be Thom driving most of it. My husband and I said absolutely! Pay the insurance for it this month, the gas to and from (obvious) a tune-up so we are sure it is safe for the grandbabies, At which point my daughter asked if I knew how expensive that at all was! I replied sweetly yes, so why dont you 2 rent one ? saves money and is newer to boot.
they rented a van! LOL

[JenBKR]

I have been in your situation My daughter wanted to borrow my car for her and hubby and kids to go to Disney, I knew how the son in law drove (badly i wont ride with him lol) My daughter hates driving so educated guess that it would be Thom driving most of it. My husband and I said absolutely! Pay the insurance for it this month, the gas to and from (obvious) a tune-up so we are sure it is safe for the grandbabies, At which point my daughter asked if I knew how expensive that at all was! I replied sweetly yes, so why dont you 2 rent one ? saves money and is newer to boot.
they rented a van! LOL

haha great idea! Throw in an oil change before and after the trip, completely clean it afterwards, ooh, have it detailed, oh yeah I need new front brakes, I'm sure I can think of more! I think it would be a lot cheaper to rent a car!

[cyber-sibes]

I had a close friend ask me this a couple months ago.
She said "How would you like to make some money by renting me your car for my vacation? I'm going skiing with my kids and all that equipment won't fit in my cart" (I have an Outback) . I was kind of stunned, this friend is a terrible driver- hit an old man's car 6 months ago, then got a ticket 3 months ago. I used my spouse as a reason to say no - "he's really picky about who drives our cars, I don't think he'll say yes. Why don't you rent one?" I think she just drove her own in the end.

[lv4dogs]

I agree with the others. I personally would say no. I don't have a problem with lending my vehicles out if it to someone totally responsible & trustworthy, but from what you described it seems like these folks don't fall under that catagory.

[king2005]

I would have to say no.
I would say no becuase it would create wear & tear on the car & that'll cost you & not them more $$. If the car broke down, I'd have no way to help them.. but if they rented the car company will send a new rental asap to replace the broken one.

If they are low on funds & have honestly worked hard to save up the money, but just cannot get enough cash to rent a car, I'd help a little in the rental fees (like the down payment) & going there with them to make sure all is ok & the car is 100% insured.

[BOBS DAD]

Some good comments...

King had a good idea that if your hubby wants to "really" help out his sister, then maybe offer to assist her financially with the "rental". It will be cheaper for you in the long run, considering the wear and tear on any vehicle in a long road trip.

You say that "want a vehicle with AC"...

People in Hell want Ice Chips... BUT THEY AIN'T GETTIN" EM