Quote Originally Posted by Dorothy39
Foxy Jean was my gift from God!!!! Thank-you for helping ME to understand her so well.
Trust me, I'm as amazed as you are at what we can still learn from our furbabies even after they've gone.
When I lost a dear Golden Retreiver, Sandy, many years ago I was crushed. I locked it in and pushed it away and somehow it never made it easier to deal with. It certainly made it worse. I was afraid to say that I was greiving for a dog, I was certain no one could understand that a dog could make such an impact.
but they can.
A bit older now with other dogs and a family to care for, it all may have helped keep me grounded. Mostly my husband, also decended from a long line of dogs, helped me see I wasn't alone in missing Tok, and that is was ok to be open about how I felt. It really helped me to remember Tok for the better times, and know it's ok to be sad about losing him. If someone thinks its foolish to be so attached to a dog, I don't care. Their loss, not mine.
Now, instead of trying to push it away, I'm letting myself grieve and also allowing myself to be happy and greatful for the time we had. It's nice to be able to focus on something besides how he died.
It has helped so much.