May I please ask for your prayers and thoughts

[Kfamr]

I can't beleive I've missed this thread. I'm very sorry about that, Jess.


I have no clue what to say anyways. I've never been in a situation like this and all I can imagine is that it's incredibly hard to go thru. I wish you luck and love. Lots of hugs beings sent to you.


Kay

[K9soul]

What I believe we both have is a mature, deep love. He is my comfort, my safe haven, my shoulder to rest my head upon at the end of the day. That is what long term love is about.

That is exactly what I have lost. On my 5th anniversary I still felt that way too.. secure in our love. I guess the lesson learned is no matter how strong you think your love is, never ever take it for granted. Enjoy every day now and never just assume it will be the same tomorrow.

Thank you Dan for your post as well. Never more truer words have been spoken. I only wish someone he trusted and felt close to would tell him the same.. make him realize we could still be happy with some effort and patience on both our parts through this down time.

[Catty1]

Apropos of Bob's Dad, copy, paste and cut the following quote out and stick it on your fridge!

"When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part."
- George Bernard Shaw

The point being...doing something because feelings are different is no reason. Anyway, hope I didn't offend, hon - just a thought!

hugs
Catty1

[Dorothy39]

The reply submitted by Dan, (Bobs Dad) and,Catty 1 are astounding.

Again, I don't know the story, the history of your relationship.

re-read Bob's Dad reply, it is remarkable, so much like something Erma Bombeck might have posted if she were still alive.

Your husband is so lost. I don't even know your story . I feel as though you are grieving what "might " have been with this person., and with this Marriage. He was not ready for the vows of MARRIAGE". I take these vows very seriously!! I am so lucky indeed to have fallen in love with a person who can and always LOVES me back!!! I am so sorry that you are not as fortunate. I wish I knew what to type . Just re-read BobsDad message. Print it out. I am so lucky to still be so much in love with the boyfriend that I had as a teenager. I wish you could feel this feeling!!!!!!! I wish your husband could too!!!Because, he will never find another YOU!!!

God Bless You Dear!!!!

[slick]

I've come here a few times and started to post, then deleted it. Somehow I just can't find the right words of encouragement.

I've never been married but I have been in a long-term relationship that ended after 13 years. I was not blindsided, I knew it was coming and the parting in 1987 was amicable. I've never been in love since.

All I can do is offer up my prayers. I think of you often when I read the poem "Sometimes" posted on my wall at work.

Take care of you.