Oh wow...what a thread.

First off, Jess, I don't really know you. I haven't been on as much as I used to be, life has just been too busy lately. But I feel your pain in your posts and words. I really can't imagine how empty and lonely you must feel right now. However, knowing you have your beloved dogs and your friends offline and the many, many good friends you have here gives you a rope to hang onto in the dark moments.

Bob's dad...what a post. It brought tears to my eyes. Tomorrow is my 5 year wedding anniversary and my husband and I are going through a bumpy patch. Not in our feelings for each other but financially. He lost his job back in March and we have been struggling since. Well he would say he didn't lose it, he just doesn't go there anymore. I have struggled with my anger at the company he worked for, and my sadness for him for the blow to his pride and self-worth. But through all of this I love him even more now than I did the day we were married. I am also noticing how he is touching me more and reaching out to me more than he did before he was fired. You are so right. Marriage is work and committement. No, I don't feel all the flutterings of first love. What I believe we both have is a mature, deep love. He is my comfort, my safe haven, my shoulder to rest my head upon at the end of the day. That is what long term love is about.

Again Jess, I am so very sorry you are going through this. My step-father did the same thing to my mother after over 16 years of marriage. He told her he just didn't love her anymore. It has taken many years for her to feel self-confidant again. I truly believe in time you too will find something that is deep and true and safe for you. Until then keep in mind how many here seem to care for you. You are obviously a very good person that deserved so much better.

Denyce