Jess I'm very sorry to hear all of this, I honestly can't imagine how your feeling right now but I know it can't be good...not good at all.
I have no words of wisdom to give but please know that I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers while you go through this tough time.
If you ever need anything at all, I'm here. {{{HUGS}}}

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Bob's Dad,
I've been married 20 years and I'd say you've hit the nail on the head. Things are never like they were when you first met each other or when you were first married...and yes, things definitely do change. You just have to REALLY love the one your with and be able to work through it...together.