I just want to say a piece, maybe it's wrong, maybe it's right, but here it is:

I know there have been quite a few of these posts, and I know some people find them annoying. But I will say it, I did post a thread asking for help, when Zsa-Zsa fell down the stairs. I was alone in the house and really needed some advice, so I posted a thread. I found it extremely beneficial to hear some comforting and kind words and good advice. Glad mine didn't turn out to get a little heated.

Referring to the thread which I think is in question, from my POV, I know that no matter how right something may be, no matter how much we want to do it, sometimes it is not possible. And I will say it. It's often parents. Of course, you cannot blame everything you do on parents, but in the particular thread, I understood perfectly, as I have done in other threads. Last December, I posted a thread asking for help about Foxy getting thin. I said in my post it was not possible for me to take her to the vet as my parents would not take her, and yet that was pretty much all the advice I got. Now that was probably the right thing to do, perhaps, even though it pains me to say it, it would have saved her life. But I could not physically walk to the vets with a hamster cage along dual carriageways and through farmland to take her to the vet, plus they would not have accepted me as the owner. Sometimes, things are just not possible. It is right to help poor people in underdeveloped countries, is it possible for us all to give up our jobs and dedicate ourselves to building communities and saving lives?

I think when people post these threads, they know what is the best thing to do, but have posted because that option is not immediately possible and are looking for other ideas. When the obvious is not immediately taken, questions are raised. And an arguement starts.

I also live by the fact 'swim or get out of the water', but sometimes you've got to be more confident in people to get them to swim.

Just IMO, not to start anything, just there's always two sides to a debate.