ever been forgotten?

[lute]

yeah, i guess. i just hate that!

[buckner]

Unfortunately, it's happened to me many a time. I have one best friend who sticks with me through thick and thin, and him and I are incredibly close and we'd never forget eachother. But, I have another "best friend" - her and I are extremely close, but we're almost exactly opposite. Political views and religious beliefs are opposite, but mostly, it's our morals. She drinks and majorly into partying, and she's "done" things with guys - I have NO problems with anyone doing these things, I just don't personally do them. But she assumes that because I won't drink, I can't be invited to parties. Or that if she invites certain people along for something, she can't invite me because I don't "match" them... well she doesn't either! So yes, I'm left out quite a bit. But everytime, she comes back saying "I just don't think you would've had fun", or the greatest "I didn't want to hear another no" - well, if she would've ASKED me, I might've said YES! UGHHHH. I hate being left out. It's time like those where I just roll my eyes, slam my fist on the desk, and then call my guy best friend and hang out. :P


I'm sorry you essentially lost your best friend. But as soon as the girl is gone, I'm sure he'll be back. How old are you? How old is he? I think it's petty when a girlfriend doesn't "allow" her boyfriend to have friends that just happen to be female.. it's so stupid.

[lute]

i'll be 18 next week. Billy is 25.

[buckner]

i'll be 18 next week. Billy is 25.

Ehhh, boys will be boys. He'll wake up one day, and come back around. If he doesn't, give me his number and I'll make a friendly little phone call. :P

Hehe, but no, seriously. I think he'll get out of this phase. He's trying to show his girlfriend that she's the only girl in his life, that'll wear off. She'll either realize it's fake and tells him to hang out with his friends, or he'll come around to "girls will come and go, but friends will never leave".

[Sevaede]

I have to agree with Vela. I'm willing to be it's a territorial and/or esteem/inferiority thing. She doesn't want another girl making moves on her man for one fear or another. She's pretty silly. I bet if you give it a bit of time she'll learn that you're awesome and have no intentions of "stealing" him away.

[slick]

It can also happen to mature adults.

A different scenerio, but I've been dumped by GFs finding BFs so many times I've lost count. In addition, I've also been dumped by couples, because the "wifey" thought that I was after the "hubby."

In fact, I've lowered by expectations for friends I have up here. If I expect nothing from them, I'll never be hurt. It's just that simple.

[lute]

thanks guys for the advice, i really hope he stays my friend.

[Pembroke_Corgi]

That's too bad! Maybe once he gets over being infatuated with his new girlfriend he will remember the rest of his friends again, I bet you are not the only one being ignored.