(off topic) but I just need a hug.

[CultureJunky]

Jen, please don't feel so bad, feeling like that and putting yourself down when you are struggling with grief is not good for you.
I also have never had a best friend in my life, though I now have my boyfriend who is my best friend and we do everything together.
But other than that I've never had a best friend not even when I was a kid properly..
Please don't feel so bad, you are not alone...
If you ever want to chat you can PM me or find me on MSN messenger, my email address is [email protected] if you ever wanna chat...

[slick]

Maybe, though, with time, you could cultivate some friendships that could help with sad times.

I hear what you are saying Johanna but for some of us it's hard enough to make friends, let alone share sad times with them. I have no best friends up here at all, but I do have acquaintances and believe me, they are the last people I would want to share sad times with. They know nothing of my life save where I work and that I have a cat. Oh yes, when it comes to sharing their bad times or just whining, I'm the first one they dump on but believe me, I will not reciprocate.

Now, and thanks to Pet Talk, I do have a few people I feel comfortable enough to send an email to and just put it all out on the table and get feedback. I feel very fortunate and blessed. Jen, I know how hard it is to reach out, especially to someone you have not met, but I will always be here for you if you ever want to just "spew", fire away. I'll be here to listen and understand.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

but I will always be here for you if you ever want to just "spew", fire away. I'll be here to listen and understand.

All the qualities needed in a best friend.

I've always loved the phrase "strangers are just friends you haven't met yet"

[Cataholic]

Thank you, Jen, for not taking what I said the wrong way. I **did** mean well. And, I certainly did not mean to imply that I have a ba-jillion friends, and I discard them like used tissues. I work hard to maintain friendships, with people on the east and west coast, and here in the middle, through significant family changes, cross country moves, etc. Not everyone likes me (like I need to tell you people that?)but, usually, I can convince them, over time, I am more good than evil.

Sorry that I dredged up a sad topic.