(off topic) but I just need a hug.

[jazzcat]

A great big (((((HUG))))) Jen.

[orangemm]

Yes, a great big (((hug))) to you and your dad.

It's hard to see our loved ones sad and we have no way to comfort them. Just be there for your dad; you don't have to say a lot, just let him know that you are there whenever he needs you.

My folks are at 'that age', too, and have seen almost ALL of their friends pass away. I, too, am at a loss as to what to do. I just try to keep in touch a lot and let them know that I love them.

[Sara luvs her Tinky]

{{{JEN}}}}

I'm sorry you are feeling so bad. Prayers on the way for you and your dad. Over time you will feel better... Sending over some hugs..

[Donnaj4962]

((((hugs))) coming your way from Indiana.

I know this is a hard time for you and your Dad. All you may be able to do is be there for your Dad. Sometimes silence, a hug,a nd a hand hold are what are needed, especially when someone is as private with their emotions as it sound your Dad is.

God Bless you, your Father, and his friend.

[slick]

Big {{{hugs}}} to you Jen. Email me if you want to talk, OK??

[Cataholic]

I am sorry to read this. I feel bad for your father, and for you. I read your post twice, and it took me a couple of days to frame a response to you. Here it is:

When I read your post, I was struck by your statement that when your friend died, you have/had "no one else". I seem to recall seeing similar posts from you about this. Kind of like you and Charlie are pretty much loners, without friends. And, you are somewhat resolved to this situation. We can't ever change the cycle of life. We usually can't stop people from dying on us, either. BUT, at least for me, what helps tremendously with both the living and the dying part is having a great family and circle of friends. People that can share my grief, and my joy. That aspect is something you can work on. I don't mean to suggest that if you have a million friends that life doesn't really suck sometimes. Or, that you should run out tomorrow and find a best friend. Maybe, though, with time, you could cultivate some friendships that could help with sad times.

And, maybe, this is the perfect time to try talking to your father about his grief...it could be really soothing to the both of you.

[jenluckenbach]

When I read your post, I was struck by your statement that when your friend died, you have/had "no one else". I seem to recall seeing similar posts from you about this. Kind of like you and Charlie are pretty much loners, without friends. And, you are somewhat resolved to this situation. We can't ever change the cycle of life. We usually can't stop people from dying on us, either. BUT, at least for me, what helps tremendously with both the living and the dying part is having a great family and circle of friends. People that can share my grief, and my joy. That aspect is something you can work on. I don't mean to suggest that if you have a million friends that life doesn't really suck sometimes. Or, that you should run out tomorrow and find a best friend. Maybe, though, with time, you could cultivate some friendships that could help with sad times.

(a very sensitive subject with me)

I know that you mean well, and I also know that you are correct, but don't you think I've tried?? People just don't like me, at least not for very long. I have lost every "friend" I ever had because they tire of me just for being myself. It makes me afraid to say and do anything around new people, because it will be wrong. I have NEVER in my 43 years had a best friend like most of you take for granted. You know, the kind of friend you can truly count on to be there through thick and thin, a friend you share everything with, a friend so close like they are a part of yourself. Kim, who passed away a few years ago, was the closest I ever came to that kind of relationship. And even now, around my new best friend (*Hi Kim*) I fear that the day will come that I will alienate her just by being me.

And my family?!? HA! If I left today for the farthest ends of the earth they wouldn't even wonder where I went.

So I live, and will probably die, alone. So being reminded to "go out and make new friends" hits me pretty hard.

But, I thank you for your honest, and since you are 100% correct, there will be no hard feelings.

Thanks for all who responded. I know you all consider me a friend, and for that I thank you.