I met someone and I have a bf now. :)

[CountryWolf07]

It went well!

I have a question..

My mom is still having issues about Anthony not being a college student or that he is REALLY into his family so he often babysits his 2 little sisters and nephew.. I'm not sure what to do, but she isn't going to change my mind about how I feel about him - We have been dating for 3 weeks now.. We talked today.. and I was teling her about him.. blah blah blah.. and she's like, "Rach, keep your options open.. date other guys instead of just him".. but the truth is, I don't even want to do that. I just want to date HIM.. nobody else.. She just hasn't met him yet.. and she will next month.. He is honestly a good guy.. what matters the most is how he treats me and how he is around me.. right? I need some input if you have it..

[finn's mom]

She's just looking out for you. That's all that is. I don't see what she could possibly find fault in him watching his little family members, though. I'd think, as a mother, that she would love that he's so close to his family. I find that odd. :/

But, for the college thing, there are plenty of people who aren't college graduates that make a good living and are wonderful people. He's young still, does he have any plans to attend a technical school or get any other schooling besides high school? I can see how your mom would be concerned about that. But, yes, you're right, what's important is how he treats you. I will share a little bit of my opinion on that, too, though. What's more important than how he treats you, is how he treats other people. It's a great way to see his true colors.

As for dating other people, that's completely up to you. Just relax and enjoy this for whatever it is. You may find that you meet someone else, or that you end up dating this guy seriously. Read my quote, share it with your mom. Not to say you're using bad judgement, but, this is all part of growing up and learning who you are. You can learn some things from other people's mistakes, but, some you have to make on your own. And, again, not saying that this is a mistake. It's an experience, go with it. Whatever the outcome, you'll learn something. It may be that your mother is right, it may not. Try not to let this guy get between you and your mom,though, even if that means maybe not sharing every little thing about this guy with her. I know it's taken me a long time to learn that I have to sometimes leave things out when I talk to my mom. She's my best friend, so, that's hard for me. But, some things are better left slightly vague. I wish you nothing but luck, though, no matter what.

[CountryWolf07]

That's right..

Except that my mom told me that she's really dissapointed in me today. That hurts. So I don't know what to do, really, but I will keep dating him. It's not like I'm going to get married. That's what SHE thinks..

To be honest? ME? MARRIED? Sure, but NOT right now. I am having fun with my life. I'm in college and I'm going to concerts and I enjoy these things. Marriage? That's not even in the picture at all - for like 5 years from now. I am just having fun, and I actually like him for who he is, my parents have not met him, yet, so they have this view of him as a bad guy which he is not. He had things on his myspace that he thought are funny, but to them, they weren't funny, so I suppose it is his sense of humor. But my mom mentioned how he does deserve a second chance to impress my mom, but I told her she hadn't even met him, so how is there a second chance?

Yes. I do realize my mom cares so much for me, I do realize that. I told her that I'm happy and she should be happy about that. Although I do know, she is worried that I will slip and things go down the drain, but hey, I am smart. I will not let that happen. But yes, I am very lucky to have a protective mom, AND TWO protective brothers. They also are not happy with my choice of the guy I am dating, but, it's just something that can't go always their way. Woo. This is giving me an headache. They aren't going to meet him until June, when I go back home, and that's when he'll come visit me. So it's like a month, so by the time they meet him, it'll be a month after we've started dating.

[finn's mom]

I think you're doing the right thing. Even if you don't date anyone else, don't strap yourself down. I mean that in a good way, do your own thing, keep your mind open, and, just have fun. It sounds like that's your plan, and, I think it's a great one. It's good to have protective family members, just remember to protect yourself. And, you can take that however it's needed. Just be safe, and, keep your mind open, even if it seems that your mom and brothers aren't. You will come out on top of it all if you remember that. I think you're a sweetheart, through the few times we've chatted. So, yeah, stay that way!

[wolf_Q]

Aw I'm sorry to hear that your family doesn't feel the same way as you. I don't see anything wrong with dating somebody who is not going to college. If they are a good person and you like them, that's whats really important. I hope everything works out.

p.s. I want to see his myspace page