Are you a party person?

**CagneyDog** · 05-07-2006, 10:12 PM

No, too uncomfortable. Especially when their is illegal stuff going on.

**king2005** · 05-08-2006, 07:57 AM

I picked other, as I enjoy small parties & small clubs (nothing too crazy), but I will go to a big party once in a blue moon with a group of friends.

**jenluckenbach** · 05-08-2006, 08:18 AM

The funniest part of this all, is that I NEVER even considered WILD parties with alcohol and smoking (as I would NEVER go to one of them). My original thought was being in a large group of people where they all know each other, but you do not. Feeling like an outcast while the others all huddle in their little groups having a good time.

Now that catnapper has posted I can explain a little (and Kim, PLEASE do not feel that this is in ANY way your fault!!!!!!!) But I was at her baby shower yesterday. It was a great success, but not for me.

I actually sat out on the front stoop for a while crying because I did not fit in.

And I was so looking forward to this party. For WEEKS we were counting down the days, and then the old me, the shy one with no self confidence took over. DRAT! I am a failure.

I am so sorry to whine................

Feel free to ignore.

**king2005** · 05-08-2006, 08:28 AM

Originally Posted by jenluckenbach

The funniest part of this all, is that I NEVER even considered WILD parties with alcohol and smoking (as I would NEVER go to one of them). My original thought was being in a large group of people where they all know each other, but you do not. Feeling like an outcast while the others all huddle in their little groups having a good time.

Now that catnapper has posted I can explain a little (and Kim, PLEASE do not feel that this is in ANY way your fault!!!!!!!) But I was at her baby shower yesterday. It was a great success, but not for me.

I actually sat out on the front stoop for a while crying because I did not fit in.

And I was so looking forward to this party. For WEEKS we were counting down the days, and then the old me, the shy one with no self confidence took over. DRAT! I am a failure.

I am so sorry to whine................

Feel free to ignore.

I've done the same thing SOOOO many times!! Your not alone, just keep forcing yourself out there & it gets a little better each time

I started going to a small club with friends & I found that helped.. I was the onlyone that didn't fit in, but I kept going anyways. Then one day I was peeled from the bench & forced to dance with a bunch of girls my age.. that sure was freaky!!! I think I was sweeting like a pig & not really dancing.. then I didn't have a choice to dance as they made me by force lol.. after that I was able to relax, still didn't dance often, but I'm more comfortable in a small group of strangers.

**lute** · 05-08-2006, 09:18 AM

i prefer being a guest at a party. i can leave if something comes up. and i'm not blamed for all the drunks that are in the house.lol

**Logan** · 05-08-2006, 09:26 AM

I love entertaining in my home and we truly don't do enough of it. Maybe now that we're finally getting our yard and home in better shape, we will do more. I think both Scott and I, and our children, like having people in our homes. Scott and I enjoy visiting with friends in their homes, too, when invited. Helen is always comfortable in those settings, as well. I sort of like it, selfishly, when it is just the 3 of us, attending other people's parties or gatherings because the other two children seem less happy, socially, and I end up worrying about them, rather than enjoying the company.

I'm like Karen. I'm very social and usually have lots to talk about with anyone around me.

Logan

**cyber-sibes** · 05-08-2006, 02:09 PM

Just depends on what's going on. I like to have friends over and cook big meals for everyone. I usually invite our "stray" friends that have no other family around over for holidays, too. And once in a while it's nice to go somewhere for a special occasion. We don't party much anymore, and "work" parties tend to be pretty boring - don't you spend enough time with these people?

**jazzcat** · 05-08-2006, 02:22 PM

I voted that it depends. I get pretty stressed out over hosting a party. I've only done a few. As for going I'm not extremely social but I almost always end up having a good time and am glad I went afterwards. It's kind of like pulling teeth to get me to go sometimes though.

I'm considering throwing a big catered BBQ for my Dad's 84th birthday coming up next month. I won't mind that so much because I'll probably have it at his house and I won't have to cook.

**Cataholic** · 05-08-2006, 02:25 PM

Very interesting thread!

I am not really a 'party' person, per se, since I go to bed at 830 pm, and who has parties before then? snicker, snicker.

I like people, and generally get along with everyone (really, I am telling the truth). While I don't love big crowds, it isn't because of a fear of people, but, because it is too hard to manage a conversation in them.

To all the people that say "I don't know what to say" or "I say the wrong things..." remember that most people just want a friendly face to smile at! Just go up and say, "Hi, my name is Betty, and I don't think we have met, have we?" or, "My name is Betty, I don't know a soul here, do you"? Really, if you do it five or so times, it works!!

I went to an party with my sister in March. I was one of maybe 3 people that didn't speak english! I just smiled, and said hello, and within a few minutes, people realized I was clueless, and instantly included me in the conversation! The easiest way to get it off the ground, just smile and say hello. (the non-talker has to take some initiative!!).

**PinkSunshine** · 05-08-2006, 04:46 PM

Nope, not a party person at all. I'm in college right now and have been to exactly 3 'parties' in the 3 years I've been in college. I'm just not a social person. I'd much rather be at home with my fiance & animals, then be out socializing....

**Buddy Blaze Lover** · 05-09-2006, 10:15 AM

I actually LOVE parties, especially when we have them at our house, and I know everyone! (it makes me more comfortable) I will say, one of my favorite things to do is have company over...I always have a blast!!

**Tollers-n-Dobes** · 05-09-2006, 02:19 PM

No, not at all. In real life, I'm a very quiet person and it takes me a while to get to know somebody well enough that I feel comfortable talking to them. I hate being around a bunch of people I don't know and am always worried I'm going to say or do something really stupid by accident. If it's just a get together with dogs though (like a PT meeting or something) I'm just fine, I guess it's because the dogs give you and everyone else something else to focus on and something to talk about.