Transferring him to another store to see if it happened there too? That increases the company's exposure IF he is a sexual harasser. Not a good idea.

In-person interviews are far better than over the phone but again....Catnapper does not know with whom they have or haven't spoken since she called. Or who may have called before she did.

I have looked people in the beady eyes and fired them for HORRIBLE behavior. I have learned expression that I would have been happier not knowing.

But the accused has a right to know the accusation and the accusers at some point in the process. As Catnapper knows from personal experience with her husband, sometimes these accusations can be wrong or get out of hand.

I saw a man get a written reprimand for flipping the hair of a woman he had worked with for 20 years. SHE did not complain. A fellow worker (male) complained to get the boss in trouble. The woman told the investigator the boss was more like a brother to her than her own and she had no complaint. Nonetheless the manager had to be written up.

I could tell you the story of a man who committed suicide during an investigation of sexual harassment. There were three guys accused. The woman (as one of the judges said) was a willing participant and at times an instigator of what went on. Nonetheless, when she said stop....it didn't. But of the three, he was, in my opinion, the least guilty. I, too often imagine going home and telling the family. But imagine if it isn't really true? And there are already problems, etc.

There are three sides to every story....his, hers and the truth. I object to someone being called an absolute moron because he/she did his/her job. Investigating a complaint of sexual harassment. And it is a difficult and unpleasant job.

I am often in the position of the absolute moron. I cannot share information with employees without violating confidence or good practices. I still have to do the job I am paid to do and do it correctly. Does that make me STUPID, STUPID, STUPID?

I am saying that when the manager left the meeting and talked with other employees (it has not been said that he stated "Catnapper told me") he was not being STUPID, STUPID, STUPID. He was doing his job....correctly.

She may have felt uncomfortable but that does NOT make the investigator an absolute moron.