After Wedding Attire - looking for opinions

[Edwina's Secretary]

Well PCB....do be prepared for confusion. We went to a dinner party recently at the home of someone who knows me. I introduced my husband with his first and last name, but of course she only heard his first name. She then introduced him with his first name and my last name.

I was thrown off and did not immediately correct her. Rather embarrassing but....as my husband says....I bring it on myself! Later I said something to the whole table....but it was awkward.

Must think how to handle in the future (although somehow I manage when the situation is reversed.)

[caseysmom]

I have been married close to 25 years and don't remember anyone ever addressing me as mrs. hisfirstname hislastname....ever.

[Barbara]

I never had an idea about this cultural difference. Here even if you take the husband's name you are still Mrs. Kimberly Miller, the version Mrs. Andrew Miller just doesn't exist.

[slick]

Sara:
I would avoid the whole confusion thing by saying "Hi I'm Sara and this is my husband Don" and leave it at that. Leave last names out of it. If I'm in a situation where I'm introducing someone, that's what I do. First names only. I never knew Don's last name until now. Now I know why you kept your last name...**snicker** Sorry, no insult intended, my natal sister. I see that you just want to brag that your name is a four-letter word.

Kim: I've never been married, nor do I have any knowledge on this type of protocol. I was going to vote for just "Kimberly Miller" but you say the "Mrs." has to stay there. That being said, my choice would be "Mrs. Kimberly Miller" no matter what the rules say about that.

[Edwina's Secretary]

Sara:
I would avoid the whole confusion thing by saying "Hi I'm Sara and this is my husband Don" and leave it at that. Leave last names out of it. If I'm in a situation where I'm introducing someone, that's what I do. First names only.

Oh...the delicate egos of men. When I do that he gets called by my last name and we can't have THAT!

[popcornbird]

Sara, that is SO funny!!! Its pretty common hearing people 'unconciously' referring to the wife as 'Mrs. (husband's last name)', even if she hasn't changed to his name, but to have it reversed is kinda funny. I imagine a husband would feel embarrassed by that. Really, it is funny somehow. 'chuckles'

I wonder if this will happen to me. It will be even more confusing when I have children, as they will take their father's last name, but I've always wanted to keep my maiden name, so I'll just learn to handle the confusion.