After Wedding Attire - looking for opinions

[ramanth]

I hear ya Johanna and that's the reason for this poll.

My first thought was to put my name hence the sample, but all the examples on the site had the guys name and it made me think twice.

I mean even announcing the couple after the ceremony and at the reception it's usually: "Mr. and Mrs. Andrew Miller" and that's how the invites were done too.

Ackkk... decisions...

[Cataholic]

Stay Kimmy Smith, then you have no worries!

I **think** it is appropriate to be Mrs. Kimberly Smith....isn't it??

[Laura's Babies]

MY vote is for the one with YOUR name to keep you own idenity! Most of my life I was "So&So's Mom", "So&SO's wife" and it was like I had no name of my own. One time I was introduced to someone and they were told "This is Joe and Joe's WIFE"! I was so outdone, this was the one to many times that this had happened so I smiled and said "and Joe's wife has a name, it is LAURA, so when you call me, please don't call me "Joe's wife!, call me by my OWN name"!"

[Cataholic]

He he he....

Phred- for me, and I by no means suggest 'normal' people feel this- I am JBH! Not Mrs. Man...he he he..not that I have a man I can even claim would want me to 'take his name'.

It is more than generational, perhaps at least as much professional, for me.

Kim- I think you use this time to create a whole 'nother persona!

Mrs. KIA Smilter- a wonderful blend.

[ramanth]

HA! We get called Kimandy by friends quite a bit. That could work too.

[king2005]

I know I wasn't married, but I was never called so & so girlfriend.. I always heard & this is so & so girlfriend & then they'd ask my name if they didn't know my name.. or I'd be introduced this is so & so & Jess.. or as our good friends called me The Jess & I have no idea why.. but I've always liked being called The Jess hehe

[Edwina's Secretary]

Don did not take my last name when we married so perhaps I am not allowed an opinion but.....

Mrs. Kim Miller indicates you are divorced from Mr. Miller.

You are all free to argue with this rule. I didn't make it up.

The only time I will acknowledge my husband's last name in relation to me is as Mrs. Donald Scare in some sort of formal invitation way. I am never, ever Sara Scare. (Okay....my mother-in-law send me cards with that name but for her I make an exception.... )

So, if I were you, Kim, and making this choice...I would go with either Mrs. Andrew Miller or Kimberly Miller (omitting the title...)

[Samantha Puppy]

I like etiquette and all that, but I hate being called Mrs. Joshua Patterson if it isn't a formal occasion. On wedding invites, fine. But for birthday cards or whatever, I'm still me! Jaime! So unless you'll be wearing the shirt to a black-tie event or something, go with Kimberly Miller.

[Glacier]

I would use Kimberly. I took my husband's last name, but I hate being referred to as Mrs. Stuart Young. It's a huge pet peeve of mine! I took only his last name, I still have a first name and my own identity!