Need drinking advice (Adult Advice)

[king2005]

I have been following this thread, but I haven't posted until now.

You have received some good advice here but I would imagine that you might feel overwhelmed by all of us.

The thought came to my mind (and why I logged on to post) is that you have shared a lot of your recent life and some personal information with all of us. And something has happened because of that. ALL OF US CARE! You seem so special and vulnerable at the same time.

So we may seem like a bunch of clucking hens gathered around you - trying to tell you what to do or not to do. It is just out of great concern for such a lovely person that we all speak our mind.

Just know that we will continue to be here for you - no one is judging you - and most of all we want you to have the chance at a very happy life - which you richly deserve.

Hugs to you from Gini and her crazy orange gang.

Overwhelmed is right.. wasn't really expecting this, esp. the coluncling part. Which I'll never go back to ever again, they are monsters in my eyes! I've been to atleast 5 & I hated them all. One told me to do something, so I did & then yelled at me the following week for walking out of the house while mom was yelling at me! One tried to make me say dad touched me (Its NOT true!). One started an argument with mom about DOG FOOD & ya I was stuck in the middle of that. The others I don't remember, I walked out before things got heated or someone tried to make me say or do something that would result in me being yelled at more...

Please don't bring up counclers anymore, just thinking of them stresses the hell out of me & reminds me of the hell I went through with mom, the lawyers & all moms friends... I'd rather talk to people on here, as your far nicer & many have life experience well above mine.

I know you all care, other wise you would have ignored me, or told me off long ago.

Honestly right now I'm in a fantastic mood (have been for the most part this week & last). I wont get into too many details right now, but I met someone lastnight. I'll be far smarter in this relationship as I wont be on the pill or patch (allergic & messed with my mind big time). I already know what its like to be in an abusive relationship & I'll never go there again. I've already shooed 2 guys away, so I'm not latching onto the first person I meet (I'm being very picky). Both of us are being smart. Were building a friendship & will take it from there if all goes well. Our first date will be on Sat, it'll be filled with movies/tv, pop & a walk in the park. I told him I have never had a drink & he wants to keep it that way (he drinks the odd beer but never to the point of getting drunk)...

I'll still be careful & don't worry about me getting stuck in a crappy relationship again (if my brain fails to notice it) as I have a large older man keeping his eye on me (not by choice so its a little annoying), hes my Landladies Boyfriend & hes very protective of the ladies under his roof (hes a ladies man & wants me to have the best). Hes the big reason why I'm not scared to meet guys, as I know he's never too far.

[Cataholic]

I'd rather talk to people on here, as your far nicer & many have life experience well above mine.

We are NOT trained professionals (in the counselling arena, anyhow). King, you are on a dangerous, somewhat 'blind' path. You remind me of a pinball game, bouncing off one target, heading a particular way, until you hit another target, than, you head another way. Does that make sense?

Keep in mind that any counselling you **might** have experienced in the past doesn't have to be a current situation. Like all else in life- some counsellors might be 'bad' (at least for you), and some will be great. Finding someone that works for YOU, and is comfortable for YOU might take a few sessions.

[pitc9]

Please be careful.
I started drinking at 13 and loved it... waaaaay too much.
When I met my hubby at the end of my senior year in high school, he was anti-drinking. So I stopped, that lasted 3 years, until I started missing it.
So I started drinking (and smoking) behind his back and my families backs.
I hide where ever and when ever I could to drink and smoke and worst off, my friends helped me hide, and would take the blame for me smelling like smoke.
Here I am 10 years later, still hiding and now I have a drinking problem. I am a binge drinker, when I know I'll have a few hours to myself (no hubby) I'll run to the store and buy a six pack and drink it as fast as I can, and make sure to be in bed asleep when my hubby gets home. I hide my empties in my trunk and throw them away once I get to work the next day. I am also now battling with depression which makes my drinking worse.
There are no alcohol dependants in my family, no history of alcohol abuse anywhere. It can happen to any one if you're not responsible. I'm not telling you not to go out and have a drink once in a while; it can be relaxing and fun... but just know when to stop and be sure to keep yourself in check at all times!

[*JTM*Coco*pi*Caramel*]

Going to a counseler isn't suppose to be fun and the topics brought up there are suppose to be hard to talk about and deal with but the point is to deal with them there in a controled environment with a proffesional. I have been to many counselers and I really never "liked" them but I left my trust in them and things worked out. Maybe now that you are older you would be more open to a counseler and be truly open with them and realize it is ok to get mad or sad and stay and bear through it.

I know you probably didn't imagine the overwhelming response from everybody, but they are just concerned about you, that is a good thing! Often times we get mad, take wrong directions in life, and are confused about things in life, and we cannot see a logical view of what going on and that is were a counseler comes in. You may think you are ok but it may be a tempory thing, and things change fast especially when you have a rough past to remember. I just hope that everything goes well for you and good luck. Hopefully some of this advice from everyone is helpful to you.