I would like to add a comment on this quote.
I can't do squat at big work meetings as there is always booze, nor go to the bars with work employees.
That is BULL COOKIES! The only thing you can't do at those gatherings is drink alcohol. I am certain you would be welcome with or without an alcoholic drink in your hand.

From the family history you just listed above I would say extremely strongly that you are much better off NOT starting. There is no need.