It sounds like a few things. 1. He has excess energy and no direction for it, and 2. He feels he is the pack leader in your home. He needs lots of exercise and a direction, i.e. obedience training, and he needs to be put on NILIF program I think (nothing in life is free, meaning he has to earn all good things, from food to attention). You can do a search in google about NILIF and it will talk more about it. He just needs structure, guidelines, and to realize you and your husband are his leaders. He needs to not have a lot of excess/bored energy to deal with too, which causes frustration and destructiveness and other negative behaviors.