Wish I could go home.

[zoomer]

Oh, I'm sorry Just let him go, it's his loss not yours!

[king2005]

First time I got to speek to Rob in weeks.. Of course it didn't go well & I panicked & told him I'm 3 weeks late.. Didn't go well at all... I hope I'm not!

[JenBKR]

Uh oh, what did he say?

[king2005]

Uh oh, what did he say?

He keeps saying to Abort it if I am. Well he already knows my views on that. So he told me to Adopt it out, once again he already knows my views on that. So he went back to telling me to abort it. He was nothing but a broken record.

He knows how I really feel about about child support. I'm against child support if the father does not want the baby (before its born). After a child is born & he has been the father, then he needs to pay child support.

Since Rob & I are not together & he wants me to abort, then in my books hes not the father & will have nothing to do with it.


The way I see things is that if you get a pet, you are committed to its care, love & happness forever. I feel the sameway about this, I choose not to abort so I am committed to its care, love & happness forever.

That is IF I am preg.

[Alysser]

I am so sorry. I hope your life gets back in order as soon as possible.

[Vela]

If you are pregnant, kids are VERY expensive and whether he wants to be a father or not it won't matter, he will still be one. He knew the consequences of how babies are made and chose to take the risks, so he has to assume repsonsibility. If he doesn't want to be a part of the baby's life, that is his loss, but he still owes half of what it costs to raise a baby. If you are pregnant please don't try to take it all on yourself. It's waaay to much for one person to handle if they don't have to, and you know he's the father, if you are, so you don't have to. I understand your feelings of responsibility towards a baby if there is one, and that is great!, but you don't have to do it alone and shouldn't try to take it all on yourself. Even if he never ever sees that baby, he needs to support it, he was there when it was created and he needs to be responsible. If he didn't want a baby he should have taken precautions to avoid it, and deal with the consequences if those precautions didn't work.

I'm so sorry for your situation and finding out those things you did, I know that hurts you all over again, but don't let it cause you to try to carry a burden that heavy all on your own, if it turns out that way. You do need to find out as soon as possible though, so you can gt proper care if that's the case. Good luck to you!

[JenBKR]

Well said Vela, I feel the same way. If you are pregnant, child support is money for the baby, and baby deserves that money. Even if you didn't really need the money from him, you could set up a college account or something like that for the baby.

I am getting way ahead of myself though. You don't know if you are pregnant yet, so don't even worry about what to do if you are at this point, just concentrate on finding out whether or not you are pregnant. We'll get you through this, we can help

[king2005]

I'm going to take my friend up on her offer & move in with them. They have kids & own a house, so all will be well. I don't want Rob supporting me in anyway. He'd rather see it dead then alive, so he means nothing to me no it. Hes been remove from the loop & I KNOW he spies on me on PT so I wont be posting the answer for all to see. I will PM only the ones I trust (the ones posting in here so far)

[Jadapit]

Gosh, I'm really sorry you are going through all this stress. That sucks big time how Rob has treated you. You seem like a really strong person but stuff like this can get really get a person down. You will be in my thoughts. Hang in there...

[Alysser]

What an A$$! I really hope your life straightens out soon. I can't believe he's actually spying on you! Please keep me updated with PM's. I want to here all the updates and if there is anyway I can help you I will. I promise. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers tonight.