Inatead of sending a personal check can you send a money order instead? You can get one from your bank, and those are international.

I have been told though that checks are universal across countries. I want to say that my fiance's parents own a business and sell to individuals all over the entire world, and they accept personal checks from all over the world and I want to say they have never had a problem cashing them. They could have been money orders, but I am PRETTY sure they were personal checks (because I have ran them to the bank to deposit them for them before).

All else fails, contact eBay and explain your situation to them, because that is unfair and not a reputable thing for a seller to do.

Why don't you want to use paypal though? I use it before; I have it linked to my bank account so when I purchase something that accepts paypal, the transaction goes through paypal and paypal pulls it out of my account for the exact amount. I actually consider it safer because that way the seller has no direct contact with my bank information at all.