I am sorry it is causing distress in your household. And, I do know the "I finally got new furniture and the cats...." story. So, I am not saying this without sympathy. My bedroom furniture is less than six months old, and my couch less than two years- it was 'damaged' within days, both of them. I put the new purchases in the 4500 range. So, again, I am NOT without sypathy. The difference for me came with my adjustment in attitude. Like Rosethecopycat- it is only material goods, and the cats are so much more important. Do I like it? No, and I do discourage it. But, I also accept it, and it doesn't really get to me like it used to. Good luck.